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Well, I did it. I fixed my car myself. I am so proud of myself right now I could almost spit. My windshield washer solution was not pumping and I figured out what was wrong by myself and fixed it. I am like a peacock strutting her stuff right now. Just wanted to share.
I hope we all get these little kadoo's for what we are able to accomplish. It just helps me to feel better about myself. I feel like I am making progress....even if it is little tiny steps at atime.
Much love to all. I do hope this year brings us some joy.
Shirley
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Thank you for letting us know. Does anyone have his address? Please PM me with it.
Prayers are on the way for David. He truely is a sweetie.
Shirley
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Pam,
Life can be very hard. On one hand you had this wonderful birth of a new child. On the other, the passing of your father shortly after. Your heart is torn both ways.
I am so thankful I still have my kids living at home with me. I know, 5 of them are adults, but they have helped me to keep my sanity when I thought for sure I was losing it. I am sure your children are doing the same thing for you. Their innocents can sure help mend a broken heart.
I know my grandson at times just comes up and gives me this wonderful hug and says, I love you NaNa. If that isn't a heartwarmer, I don't know what it. I am thankful for all of them.
I hope the new year gives us peace in our hearts and souls so that we can continue to see the miracles that God sends to us each and everyday.
I am thankful you have joined our group. When we have a team working on healing it is so much easier than doing it alone.
Much love,
Shirley
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Lillian,
You have again written a very wonderful story of your Christmas saga.
I have read it a number of times now. It would be nice if our lessons in life did not have to be so painful, but I suppose if they weren't we would not learn as well as we do.
Thank you for always sharing your thoughts here.
I wish for you a very peaceful New Years and many joys to be seen in the year to come. May our hearts grow lighter so that we may still see the miracles that God presents us everyday.
Much love,
Shirley
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Candy,
I too am sorry you are having such a difficult time right now. With the holidays just passing and now to have your son leave for the service, it is going to be harder. But like Gloria and you yourself have said, our children do grow up and move out. That is what we do as parents, raise our kids, give them the roots they need to grow their wings.
I know when my daughter was in the AF I missed her terribly, but I also knew I had to let her go. I found that that was a time for me to grow. To learn to live as an individual, not just as a mother. I know this is going to be hard for you, but you will make it through. Just as Jeremy wants to make you proud, make him proud of you also. Have faith.
I have been reading the books by John Edward the last few days because the holiday's have been hard for me too. I have found many things in his writing that given me hope, given me strength, and they have given me some peace in my soul.
Candy, I pray you are able to smile again one day. Accept that it will take time and no one knows how long that will be. Rely on Hugh's spirit to be with you durning this time of adjustment.
My prayers are for you. Take care sweet, wonderful lady.
Much love,
Shirley
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Pam,
I know what you are saying. I do agree. Most don't want to know how you are "really" doing. They just want to make it seems like life is totally wonderful and you need to get back on the band wagon.
I too don't always tell people how I am feeling. I have found this to be the safest place to let my true feelings out. There are so many here who have gone through what you are going through right now.
I just tell people the truth and that I would rather not discuss it with them if I don't feel they understand. Especially those that tell me it is time to "get on" with life. I am "getting on" with life in my terms. So to those that don't understand or have the idea they "know" what you are going through, even though we both know they don't. I just don't discuss it with them.
But you are right, the easiest way is to just tell them, I am fine. My close friends know what "fine" means. They smile, give me a hug, and let it go at that.
Thank you for joining us on the board.
Much love and hugs to you.
Shirley
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I am so sorry you had to find this board. But I will be the loudest to say this is one of the best places to come to for support and information. It has been my place to find strength and stamina. If you have quesitons, normally not one but two or three will have answers. Stick around, *WE* will help you through this.
I will keep your son in my prayers.
Wishing you enough,
Much love,
Shirley
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Dearest Shelley,
I am so sorry you are having to go through the waiting and worrying.
Take a deep breath!!!!!!
As others have said, try to keep a positive attitude.
I will pray an extra prayer in honor of you. You my dear girl have been the best thing that has happened for your step dad. Find that little rope and hang on tight. As Dean said, WE can get through this together.
May you find some peace soon.
Much love,
Shirley
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Annie and Tim,
I too am so saddened by this last turn of events. There is nothing harder in life than what you are both going through right now.
Take all the help and support you both need at this time.
If I may suggest this without heartache, write to each other. Put your thoughts in writing so you have that to hold in the days to come and take pictures.
I know that both of your hearts are breaking at this time. But take the time to be with each other and just treasure life for what it is.
You are in my prayers.
Wishing you enough....
Much love,
Shirley
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Debbie,
I am so sorry your mother is having so much pain. It is hard on you and your father to see her that way I am sure. Do what you can to make her comfortable. Just be with her and I hope your sister gets time with her also. Some hang on until they get that last visit from their family members and maybe that is what she is waiting for.
You are all in my prayers.
Wish you enough,
Much love,
Shirley
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Deb,
Thanks so much for sharing this beautiful poem.
You have been in my thoughts and prayers these past few days.
Wishing you enough.....
Much love,
Shirley
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I figured something out today. I found out I am jealous!!! I am mainly jealous of couples.
I also found out I get angry with couples who are fighting over stuf that come a week from now won't mean a thing. Especially the ones who fight and don't have a clue what it is like to lose someone they love. I have seen couples arguing over the stupidest of things, and I get jealous and angry. I want to just smack them between the eyes and say wake up!!! Don't you realize what you are doing. I would give anything to be in your shoes. To have my husband back, bad habits and all. I want to yell at them, don't you get it???? Don't you understand that time is so precious and you are wasting it????
I just got back from having a wonderful afternoon with my brother and sister in law. It was her family's Christmas gathering. It was so nice to see them all but at the same time I was jealous of the "couples". It is hard to see them together. I reminds me that Randy is gone and it hurts.
Thanks for listening.
May we all find some peace this holiday season and every other day we have.
Much love,
Shirley
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Paddy,
Welcome to the board. I hope and pray that you have a long time with your husband. May his treatments be successful.
Much love,
Shirley
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Pam
I am sitting here in tears reading about your wonderful father. I am so sorry that you had to go through all of this. I know what it is like to lose your Dad. He was probably the champion in your corner who always encouraged you to do your best. I am sorry your son lost his wonderful grandfather. I know my grandson still asks for his PaPa to this day. The last two weeks he has told our whole family how much he misses his PaPa. All we can tell him is we miss him too. His PaPa was the world to him. They loved each other so much. The one thing that would make Randy smile was Jacob. The picture posted for me was the last one we took of Randy and Jacob together. It just shows how much they loved each other. Totally and completely loved by one another.
You, your mother, and son, and the rest of your family are in my prayer. I pray for peace and comfort for all of us that have to deal with cancer.
Wishing you enough....
Much love,
Shirley
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I am so sorry to read this about your precious mother.
I am thankful she got the care she needed and that your family needed at this horrible time.
Come back to the board when you need to. I know since my husband died, this has been my life line. The people here are the best!!! We all need a place to go when there is no other place to vent and cry and laugh and remember those we have lost to this awful nightmare. Those here do understand as they are walking the walk and taking the journey that we have in common.
I am so sorry.
Much love,
Shirley
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Laurie,
We know how important our family is to each of us who have been put into this nightmare of lung cancer. It really is a shame others do not learn from what we have been through.
Bet you were glad to leave.
Thanks for sharing.
Take care, I hope you have a nicer new years.
Much love,
Shirley
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Shelley,
I must say Dean is very good at putting into words what I feel also.
I guess I would take Dean's advise about letting your step dad know to lock anything of value up when they are around. It would not be the first time someone has been ripped off from ungrateful relatives. I know when my father died, a niece stole from my mother some very important items and then pawned them. With that said, just let you step dad know that even though they are relatives, somethings are never safe.
Remember how when Scroog(sp)died, they stole the bedclothes from his bed? That would be your cousins. Evil people they are.
I am thankful I have not had that experience with my family.
I guess I would be glad to know in my heart that I have not gotten down to the gutter level like they are. But I think Dean said it best.
I wish you well in dealing with this because I know it hurts your soul to find out that that is how they feel.
Take care,
Wishing you enough.....
Shirley
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Christina,
I am glad you posted and that you had a good holiday.
Mine was okay. Lots going on that right now that I have no answers to so we are just waiting for reports.
Take care,
Much love,
Shirley
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Hey Mo,
If you ever get back to the Twin Cities let me know. Would love to get together and have coffee.
Take care.
Much love,
Shirley
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To all of those who have lost a loved one this year and in years past.
I wish for you peace in your soul and hope for a brighter day.
I do understand how hard it is to get through this time of year. The yearning for holiday's past, the joy we use to share with those we love and have lost.
It is my wish that we all are able to be thankful the pain and suffering is over for our loved ones and that they are in heaven celebrating the birthday of Christ. I can picture in my mind, the whole group of them together watching over us and seeing them smile because they are in a much nicer place.
May you feel the love and warm wishes they send to us. I see them smiling. I see them as a group who know we are missing them terribly, but they know we will survive and be able to see the miracles that God gives.
To each of us, I wish for our hearts to be lightened of the saddness we feel. They love us still and always will.
May your days ahead be peaceful and filled with the joy and wonderment of a child for the holiday.
Wishing you enough,
Much love,
Shirley
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Rick and Katie,
My wish for you is to have a peaceful, joy filled holiday.
Thank you both for all you do with the board and all the support you bring to each of us. May God's blessings be with you and your family at this time.
Much love,
Shirley
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Anne,
I too am just now reading your post. I am so sorry that your mother lost her fight.
I do believe she is at peace and no longer suffering.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Just think of her smiling down on you and she is so proud of you and your family.
Wishing you enough....
Much love and peace to you all.
Shirley
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Peggy,
What a beautiful and timely poem.
Thank you for sharing this with me.
May you have a peaceful holiday.
Much love,
Shirley
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Katie and Ann,
Thank you both from the bottom of my heart for your very insightful posts. My situation was nothing like yours and at this time I don't feel it would be a benefit for anyone to read about it. But both of your experiences were what I had hoped for for Randy and I and the kids, but God saw fit for it to be very different from yours.
Thank you both for all you do on here.
Much love,
Shirley