Lillee0708 Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 Hello everyone, hope you remember me. My dad left the hospice to come home. He was home for about a month. However over the weekend everything took a downward spiral. We took him back to the hospice yesterday. It doesn't seem like there's much time left. Although he was home I feel like we should have done more together. I think the hardest thing yesterday was knowing he may never see his home again. It just became too much for my grandfather, who kept getting frustrated with him. Dad is complaining of his left side hurting now also. He is also urinating blood, which I don't know why. The pain is getting worse and he is just going in and out of it. I took a personal day today, but my grandfather is going to work as is my uncle and my sister staying after school, and my husband going to the gym after work. I know I can't drain myself, but I know I'll recover. Its just frustrating how everyone goes about their day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shellit74 Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 Hi lillie, Sorry to hear about your father. I can underdstand how you feel. When dad got to that point, I too was beating myself up about not doing this or that with him or telling him more things.. PLEASE dont agonize over it too much, just try to be there for him now as much as you can. Thoughts going out your way! Shelli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patti B Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 ((((((Lillee)))))) I am so sorry to hear about your dads condition. I hope the hospital can make him confortable. Please do not beat yourself up - you have done all you can do ------you gave him LOVE!!! Hugs - Patti B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SandraL Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 Hi Lillee. My heart goes out to you during this very difficult time. Prayers for you and your family. Sandra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 Lilliee I am sorry to hear that things have gone this way for your Dad. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and that we will all be here for you during this difficult time. Warm hugs Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 (((Lillee))), My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Dad. Hugs, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillee0708 Posted October 7, 2008 Author Share Posted October 7, 2008 I just got back from the hospice. Dad was in the dining room having breakfast. It seems that he is losing his motor skills. His hands kept dropping onto his plate. Is this a sign that he's close to dying. I just want to know when. The one assistant there said she was so suprised to see how much he declined since his last stay there. She said she thought that maybe there was a mistake last time he was there as if it wasn't necessary. Please give me some signs to look for so i know when it's time to say good-bye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 There are no signs! everyone else I think is in denial and thinks that the situation will improve if they ignore it!! It wont You are doing the right thing! Cherish yesterday remember today and pray for tomorrow!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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