Guest Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Hi, my name is Anya. My best friend was diagnosed with lung cancer a week ago. He's 49 and was a very heavy smoker. He seemed perfectly healthy until I took him in because he was having pain and couldn't move his arm. Then after tons of tests I was told that he had a small tumor in his lung that has spread to several spots in his brain and to the sack around his heart. I was in shock and know very little about cancer so everything they told me went over my head and ended up a jumbled mess. He's already started the treatments. He has had 1 chemo treatment and is on his 2nd radiation treatment for the brain. They also said he would keep getting fluid around his heart. They told me they didn't expect him to make it past 3 months. I really don't know what to ask. I'm still kind of in a cloud. And all of this medical stuff goes over my head. But I'm his only family so that means I will be taking care of him through this alone. I need to know, is there truly any hope for someone who's cancer has already spread this much and is only just now being diagnosed? Please help me prepare. I need to be prepared for what comes next. Right now he's feeling really good but as he gets further into the treatments will he get really sick? What should he be doing or not doing during treatments? What do they usually do next if the treatments don't work? His bills are coming due, should I apply for disability for him now even though he's still feeling pretty good at this point? I read that disability can take 6 months. So I don't know what to do. I know we need to not give up hope. But what if they are right and in 3 months we lose the battle. What will he be facing when the end nears? I'm not prepared to watch my best friend die. I don't know if I can be strong enough for both of us but I guess I have no choice. I don't want to go into this blindly. So I find myself coming here in hopes of finding some real answers, no matter how hard they may be to hear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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