Carleen, you have come to the right place and we're glad you decided to "get in on the action and support". Sorry about your husband, and so young. You are going through what is "normal" for a cancer patient caregiver, and I'm sure your husband is going through what is "normal" for the patient. Sounds like you are off to a good start, with your checking opinions. And now, at least, you are about to start treatment. Sometimes the worse time is the waiting in between diagnosis and treatment initation. I strongly recommend that you and your husband get good friends or church counselors or someone you feel trust in, to help you through these days. My wife and I both have such people working with each of us. Feel free to ask questions (no dumb ones, only the ones unasked are dumb) and to vent your feelings. No one should travel this road alone. God's blessings to you two. Don