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A Primer on How to Live

Fay A.

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A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed

>> each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and

>> shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing

>> home today. His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move

>> necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the

>> nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready.

>> As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual

>> description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been

>> hung on his window.

>> "I love it," he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having

>> just been presented with a new puppy.

>> "Mr. Jones, you haven't seen the room; just wait."

>> "That doesn't have anything to do with it," he replied.

>> "Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my

>> room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged ... it's how

>> I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. "It's a decision I make

>> every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed

>> recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer

>> work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.

>> Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I'll focus on the new

>> day and all the happy memories I've stored away. Just for this time in my

>> life.

>> Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you've put in.

>> So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank

>> account of memories! Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I

am still depositing." Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

>> 1. Free your heart from hatred.

>> 2. Free your mind from worries.

>> 3. Live simply.

>> 4. Give more.

>> 5. Expect less.


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The way I work it out is to deliberately picture setting the worry aside. I lock them up in imaginary boxes, and only let them out when I am prepared to work at finding realistic solutions to them.

No word from NIH/NCI. But I also do not yet have the amended or reread CT-PET Scan report, and I need that to go along with the discs. I see my regular Onc in the morning, may or may not have chemo depending on today's labs. Will just have to see what the morning brings....

But Kasey, today was a beautiful day. A little cold and windy, but the sun was shining and my daffodils are in bloom. I planted them along with white shamrocks and bright rose/orange Bouganvilla. It's a stunning thing to see! All three flowers, white shamrocks (oxalis), Yellow King Alfred Daffodils, and the vivid Bouganvilla, are in bloom.

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Thanks Fay. I DO try to do just that. As a matter of fact, a VERT special person has given me a 'box' in which to put all my worries. That, along with your adivice, may just help me to banish ~ at least SOME of them!

NIH is usually very prompt in replies. Please be sure to let me know when you hear.



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They called today while I was at my Onc's office. No chemo because the red counts are too low, and I have another lung infection. By the time I made it home it was too late to call the East coast. Will get up at 6 AM to do the call back tomorrow. Found out today that the Head of the Nuke Med section of the imaging center I had the CT-PET done decided not to read my scan and generate the needed report, or talk with my Onc (who called them twice today), but rather decided that the descrepancies in the report will have to be addressed by the original reading radiologist who won't be back in the office until Monday...Meantime I am left with no information, no plan, no treatment. I am trying not to allow my anger to overtake me. My local Oncologist is very upset about the way the Radiology group has handled this. I'm really surprised. They have always been so good before.

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