kim Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 Mom has been gone for 2 years now, Dad has been remarried for 1yr. Dad had 2 wedding bands from his and mom's marriage; a silver engraved band and a gold and diamond band they bought a few years before mom got sick. Dad wants to take some of the diamonds out of the second band and have a piece of jewelry made for my step-mom with it. This has REALLY upset my sister Cindy and I'm somewhat upset too! That was from his marriage with MY mom, why would he give of that to her? Part of me says oh well, it's his, what can I do? Or, should I tell him how I feel. I don't think my stepmom knows about it. I just think it would be in bad taste and, well, disrespectful to my mom who loved him and put up with a lot of crap over the years! My brother thinks we're overreacting. What do you all think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 I think he didn't ask your step mom. I doubt she wants something from the first marriage and would rather have something that is just hers. Men just don't think (sorry men-don't write me-it's a well known fact ). Maybe you should put a bug in his ear and save him from getting his clock cleaned by the new wife. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 Well, from the widower side of the spectrum, I can assuredly say that Ry is right. My other half John would freak out if I tried to give him something that important of Chad's. I think you are also right, it was sacred between your mom and dad. I think you should talk to him about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
recce101 Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 This guy agrees with Lori's John and you ladies. And the idea of helping him avoid trouble with the new wife sounds like a good approach (you might not even need the other shoe)... Aloha, Ned Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 I say SAY SOMETHING! I'm 100% on board with this one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mary colleen Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 Ry - you said it all, and so well. mc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 Say something to Him. New wife may be offended and insulted, if she found out also. I could never do that myself. Good Luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen1 Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 I agree ! Talk to your Dad and explain it from your heart. I would feel the same way you and your sister feel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 Definitely say something! If he is remarried, I'd ask for both of the rings for you and your sister for keepsakes of your Mom. Grrrr.... men are such dopes sometimes. (Sorry guys!) Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kim Posted February 16, 2007 Author Share Posted February 16, 2007 Thank you everyone SO much for your help. My brother thinks we are making to be a stink out of this, but then he calls her "mom".(Whole other issue for me that I won't go into.) I think I'll approach him with the how does he think she will feel getting something of my mom's question. Thanks guys, I feel better already! I know he's not doing it to hurt our feelings, he just probably hasn't thought of it the way we do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzie Q Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Kim, perhaps you could ask if he would consider giving (or selling, depending on his nature) the ring and/or diamonds to you and your sis after you suggest he rethink giving your stepmom a ring made with the stones from his prior wedding ring. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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