bugno92 Posted April 18, 2008 Share Posted April 18, 2008 Hi There, I have posted a couple times but never intoduced myself. My real name is Robyn and Im from CT. I am caring for my mother who has stage 4 lung cancer with mets to brain and adrenals. She has been MY inspiration through this and has not once complained. She was diagonosed on Sept 17, 2007. She only has me and my sister (who does what she can), but I mostly do everything. My mom is not receiving anymore treatments. She is stable and able to care for herself. I am supposed to go to Florida next week for 4 days to do a race. I am feeling guilty that I am going but I made plans months ago to go with a friend, so I really can't back out unless my mom gets worse. My sister and husband have promised to take good care of my mom while Im gone, but I feel guilty that I am going. Has anyone had a simialr experience? I guess what I am asking is do you think it is okay for me to go? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted April 18, 2008 Share Posted April 18, 2008 Hi Robyn-- There is no reason why you should not go or why you should feel guilty. You mentioned that your mother is stable and able to care for herself as well your sister and her husband promised to take good care of her while you are gone. Unless something changes for the worse then you should go. I'm sure your mother would want you to go, if it was my daughter I would want her to go. Good luck! Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atlanta1 Posted April 18, 2008 Share Posted April 18, 2008 You should go - as you mentioned she is stable and will be in good hands. Caregivers need breaks too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muriel Posted April 18, 2008 Share Posted April 18, 2008 Go! There's no reason to believe that she won't be ok while you're gone and, as others have said, you need to take care of yourself too. Muriel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb73 Posted April 19, 2008 Share Posted April 19, 2008 Hello Robyn, I am glad to meet you. Should you go to Florida? As others have advised, unless something happens to stop you, leaving is a good thing. Caregivers can become hostage to their own sense of "always being there." (This is only natural.) Your sister and her busband have promised to take good care of Mom. Go, enjoy, and get some new input. Hope always, Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bugno92 Posted April 19, 2008 Author Share Posted April 19, 2008 Thanks to all of you for your responses. You guys are all so great and understanding.I just want to do what is best for my mom. But I also want to go to Florida and I guess I was feeling guilty for feeling that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patti B Posted April 19, 2008 Share Posted April 19, 2008 Robyn- As a survivor, I can honestly tell you that I would want you to go. I do not want to see my family changing their lives overwhelmed because of what I am going through. So go, have fun, take some much needed time for yourself. Take lots of pics to share with mom when you get home!!! Hugs - Patti B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted April 19, 2008 Share Posted April 19, 2008 Robyn As long as your Mom is stable and taking care of herself on her own, there should be no question about whether you can/should go to Florida for 4 days. Caregiving is a tough job and you need to look out for your own health and sanity as well. If you don't take care of your own needs you will not be able to care for Mom when/if she needs you. Hope this helps Warmly Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SandraL Posted April 19, 2008 Share Posted April 19, 2008 Hi there. I agree with all here. Your mom would absolutely want you to go. So pack your bags, go and have a wonderful time. And good luck with the race. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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