shellybug68 Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Dad has been in quite a bit of pain lately and they have changed his meds to Cadian (sp?) a morphine based med because he can not seem to get his pain below a 8 with the Lortab. He was taking so much of the Lortab they began worrying about his Liver. He has been sleeping about 90 % of the day and has become incontinent with both bowels and urine. He stopped eating pretty much a few days ago. I have been trying to get him to eat here and there but its one bite here one bite there and then he just falls asleep during it. I am afraid he will choke, so I have stopped pushing it so much. His tumor on his esophagus has grown apparently because he is having problems just swallowing liquid and his meds. The hospice nurse also told us he has some lesions on his ribs which she figures is mets to the bones now. The hospice team has been circling my house now for the past few days on a regular basis and asking me about his DNR and Living will and then yesterday they had the chaplain come out. I am starting to think that they feel it wont be long and the nurse said all they can do now is just keep him comfortable. I have been here so many times now that I am prepared for it I think, but it still hurts to see him in so much pain and the decline has been so fast. He has become very confused and it is hard to understand him sometimes but I still try to hold his hand and talk to him time to time to let him know I am here. He said the other day when he was a little more together that he felt it was almost time. I have heard that some people do know when they are going to die. Have others experienced this? Well I just really wanted to give an update on what is happening with my father. I read the posts everyday. Knowledge is everything and this board always feeds my quest for that knowledge. I appreciate all of you. Take care, Shelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angie Daughter of Bill Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 I will be praying for your family. Big hugs to you!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 You and your dad are in my prayers, Shelly. Love each other while you are both still here. XOXOX MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gerbil runner Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Shelly, I don't have any real advice, but I'll be praying for you and your dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OhioKat Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 You & your father have my prayers also. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Shelly, My prayers will be with you and your father, your presence is certainly helping him, just tell him you love him and that you understand. So sorry for the pain, that is the hardest for you to see and for him to get. Hugs J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Shelly, from what you say, I think your dad is ready to be released from this life and move on to one without pain and suffering. You should continue to communicate with him and, if you can, tell him it is okay for him to move on. Lucie had to do that with her mother, who died of a brain tumor. My prayers are with you. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shellybug68 Posted February 5, 2004 Author Share Posted February 5, 2004 I just wanted to thank everyone for their prayers and well wishes. The hospice nurse just left and told me that his decline is going fast and that it will probably only be a few weeks. She told me I should contact family members if they want to see him while he will remember it so they can say I love you and share memories because she said it may only be a few more days to a week before he is unaware and they will keep him comfortable. She said it will be peaceful as they will daily continue to watch his pain and increase as necessary. I am really not as taken back as I thought I would be at this time. I guess I have seen it coming and it will probably hit me worse later when he is gone. I have to be strong for my teenage son who is very close to him and my sister who is trying to get down here. Take care everyone. Shelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Shelly, I will pray for peace and comfort for your Father and you. Ginny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joe B Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Shelly - You and your father are in my prayers........ Joe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IIIp0 Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 [[[[[shelly]]]] -- God Bless you as you walk such a hard and difficult journey right now. You are in my prayers. Hugs - Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 ((((((((((Shelley))))))))))) Hugs and Prayers coming out to you and your Dad Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pritchie Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 Shelley, You and your Dad are in my prayers. Pamela Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollyridge Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 I am so sorry. You are in our prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 You and your dad are in our prayers... XOXOX MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenniferB Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 I went through the same thing you are going through right now, two weeks ago. It was one of the hardest things I had to do. As long as your dad is comfortable, that's all that matters. I think my mother knew she was dying and she started to disassociate herself from us. All I can tell you, is to just talk to him. Tell him everything you want to say. I think it does them good as well as you. You both will be in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 Shelly, my heart goes out to you. I lost both my parents within 11 months of each other when I was just 24-25. My dad died of a heart attack and my mom died of peritonitis after gall bladder surgery. It is hard, but you can go on. I figure if we live the best lives we can, being ourselves, then they live on in us, and we are a tribute to them. Good wishes. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest canuckwebgrrl Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 Shelly, I'm very sorry your Dad is not doing very well. (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted February 7, 2004 Share Posted February 7, 2004 So very sorry Shelly, I am praying for you and your Dad. It must be so hard for you. Love , Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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