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    moms gone

    in GRIEF

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    I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom.

    It is so hard to come to grips when our Moms pass on to the next journey. But, knowing she is at peace and no longer suffering gives a little comfort. Try not to get to stressed out about the arrangments and next few days. Your body is already in shock and trying to make sense of all that has happened. You take good care of yourself and know we are here for you when you need us.

    Warm Hugs,

    Melinda[/i]

    everywhere and nowhere

    in GRIEF

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    Sarah,

    I can relate to the feelings you are having. I, too, lost my Mom 4 months ago. It hurts to lose that one person who loves us unconditionally. Sure, everyone has friends and family but there is nothing comparable to a mothers love. Grief is SO consuming right now for you I'm sure. Just take things one day at a time. You're doing all the right things, one foot in front of the other and continue to reach out when you need a little support.

    Warm Hugs,

    Melinda

    Dear Mom

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    You have opened your heart and soul with those words and you have shown us how special your Mom really was.

    She has molded the person you are now by teaching you all the important qualities and she just has to be watching you with such a big smile on her face.

    Thank you for sharing that with us.

    Warm Hugs,

    Melinda

    My Mom Diane Passed

    in GRIEF

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    Sarah,

    I'm very sorry for the loss of your Mom.

    You should be so proud of yourself for making the beginning of her next journey so peaceful and filled with love.

    Praying for you to find strength and comfort in the coming days. There are so many of us who have just recently lost our parents.....lean on us when you need us ok?

    Warm Hugs,

    Melinda

    Has anyone heard of this treatment plan

    in INTRODUCE YOURSELF!

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    Hi Robin,

    I've never heard of the oxiplabinevery before but my Mom responded VERY well with the Avastin/Taxotere combo.

    My stepdads cousin is still taking this and he's been stable for quite some time now. There are others here on this site that are doing wonderful too.

    I think you have so much to be hopeful for with this new combination and I am praying for your success.

    Keep us posted,

    Melinda

    Long Night.....

    in GRIEF

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    Ann,

    I'm so sorry you had such a rough night and I'm sure tomorrow will be a very tough day too.

    I, too, have been having a hard time getting my Moms last month out of my mind. Those kind of memories are not the ones that you want to think about. It hurts so, so much.

    I completely agree with Diane about Dennis trying to comfort you in the dream about your grandchild.

    Take very special care of yourself tomorrow and know that you will be in my thoughts all day.

    Sending big, warm hugs prayers your way.

    Melinda

    grief and the holidays - a survival guide

    in GRIEF

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    Grief & the holidays: a survival guide

    At some point in life, everyone will experience grief. During the holiday season, when everyone expects you to be happy or at least act happy and join in the festivities of the season, the added pressure and stress can make grieving even more difficult. Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one or are the friend, coworker, neighbor or family member of someone who’s grieving, here are a few tips to get you through.

    For the boss/coworker/neighbor of someone who’s grieving:

    1. A little acknowledgement goes a long way

    When confronted by a situation where a good friend, coworker or other such associate is grieving during the holiday season, a little acknowledgement can go a long way in an already alienating environment. Express your sympathy honestly and openly. And while someone who is grieving may choose not to attend, it’s still important to extend the invitation to regular holiday activities like lunches and office parties.

    2. Have a little faith in me

    Trust in the decision of someone who’s grieving. Despite their world being turned potentially upside down, it’s critical that you trust their judgment and not push them to join in on the fun at an office party because YOU think “it will be good for him/her.” Listen to them when they say, “Thanks, but I’m just not ready yet.”

    3. Use the deceased’s name

    Often there’s a fear about saying the name of the person who’s died; as if somehow saying the name will cause more pain. However, phrases like, “So sorry for your loss,” and even using only pronouns like, “She was so wonderful,” and “He will be truly missed,” tend to negate the person’s existence in the first place.

    For the person grieving:

    1. You don’t have to

    If certain family traditions are making you uncomfortable this year don’t do them. For instance don’t carve the turkey if you don’t want to, or don’t sing along if you don’t want to. Be careful not to throw out all your traditions, but don’t be afraid to drop some either. You can always pick them up again later.

    2. Drop before you shop

    Feeling overwhelmed by a long gift list – 12 days of Christmas, 8 days of Hanukkah, or everyone seems to have been born in the same month!! Simplify. This is a perfect time to give yourself the gift of simplicity and the joy that comes with it.

    3. Checking it twice

    Whether the holiday involves, cooking, shopping, cleaning or organizing, you have plenty of details to keep up with. Let a list do the work for you. If you are grieving, your memory may not be up to par, or you may be having trouble concentrating. That’s “normal.” Rely on your notes and lists, and keep them handy.

    4. Do you remember?

    Companionship, laughter, tenderness… what do you remember? The person you are grieving gave you all kinds of gifts – tangible and intangible during your time together. Write them down and keep them someplace special.

    5. Where’s the party?

    Just because everyone always comes to your house for the holidays or special occasions doesn’t mean they have to come this year. Feel free to try something else to give yourself the space you need to grieve. Too tired to whip up your famous recipe? That’s okay. Let someone else prepare it to your specifications.

    6. Surprise!

    Be prepared for the holidays as well as birthdays and anniversaries and other special occasions to be an emotional time for you. Don’t be surprised by tears and sadness, and don’t fight them off. Instead carry tissues. Tell the people you are with that you probably will cry, and invite them to cry with you.

    7. Just say no

    If you are feeling pressured to participate in more than you’re comfortable with try saying “no”.“ No thank-you.” You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Be kind, but firm. People will want you to feel welcomed and included, but they will also understand that you need some time.

    8. Share the love

    Holidays and special occasions where gift giving is the custom may be hard in that no gift is being purchased for the deceased. Consider buying a gift for someone who would otherwise not have a gift or make a contribution to a charitable organization in that person’s name.

    9. Tell me again

    Instead of trying to push back memories of the person you are grieving this holiday, ask friends and family members to share recollections of the person with you in photographs, stories, and mementos. Some families box, wrap and give each other memories. Trinkets that remind us of the family member or friend are especially enjoyed by, and helpful for, children.

    10. Pay attention

    Most importantly, pay attention to yourself. Listen when that little voice tells you you’re tired, and need to take a break from holiday preparation. Give yourself the option of not attending another party or event. And be sure to let your friends and family members know what you’re up for and what they can do to help.

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