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I hope you feel better in the upcoming days, weeks... Your love for your wife will continue, just take it a day at a time and remember she will be close to you forever.

Ray good luck and never give up. I have no doubt you can get better.

Thanks fo rthe update. I am glad you are doing better than before. Please keep us updated and thanks for all of the help you have given us!!

Good luck on the new clinical trial. Hope it goes well! Thanks for the info on iressa

Shelly, all I could say is that I know how you feel. Dad is not faring well at all, he can barely walk a few paces, he is on oxygen 24/7. He says he can't breath often. He does eat 3 times a day, although not enough. Luckily we have 3-4 people near him 24 hours a day. It's hard to say but I am kind of getting used to seeing my dad like this. There is pretty much no life left in him, emotionally. I don't know, we just have to do the best for our loved ones! You are doing a good job, don't give up just yet.

Michele I hate cancer also. The best thing to do is to get ready for the worst, but still look for other options. Of course your husband needs to eat and get nutrition in the body. My dad cannot hold down hard or many solid foods. We usually make him chicken soup, mashed potatoes and gravy, spaghetti, oatmeal,etc. He also drinks prosure which has a lot of vitamins and minerals. It's very hard on our end, but do try your best for your husband. Good luck!

Never give up I say. Things may look bad but you have to fight on! Things can be turned around. 3 times my dad seems like a goner, but he comes back and gets better if even for a short time. I wish you the best of luck.

Ada its good that you are back home. I hope you get better soon.

It's a tough disease to deal with especially if there a few who are offering support. I would try to encourage anybody to go and visit and keep company. Try to ask importnat questions and have a meaninful conversation. There may come a time when the lung cancer survivor has nothing to look foward to and has loss the will to live. Luckily your loved one still has live left so cherish that part. good luck

If you have any doubts please get second or third opinions. It's better to make sure things are done right.

Your Uncle still can have a qulaity life with lung cancer. I hope you visit this board more often. Good luck!

I dont know your moms exact condition but if she doesnt eat, her body will not function properly. You can give your mom megace or something for the appetite to see if she wants to eat a bit more. Try to do things slowly and try not to force things on anyone. I wish you the best.

I hope you find the support you need. This website is great and I think will be very useful for you. good luck

Chris was a great man, remember him and honor him by living your life to the fullest. Take it one day at a time. ray

Deborah, It's great your dad is eating more than before. Wow he eats more than me. My dad is kind of like yours. He never complains and he really believes in the doctors. We do have dad on MEgace, we will see if it works. I am happy for you. Keep on doing what you are doing because it works. Have a great weekend! ray

Rob, things will get better they always do!

His vitals are still good. Hey he may want to stick around past this summer.

Hang in there. If your mom still has fight left in her I would look into clinical trials or other modes of treatment. However, its her choice and its best to keep her as comfortable as possible. Good luck and I hope things turn out good~!

Check if the pain is short and quick or if its long lasting and severe. Obviously you don't want him to suffer with pain, yet you dont want him to be sleeping all day and getting even weaker. I never tried Iressa, so I cant help you there. Getting enrolled in a clinical trial may take weeks. If your dad can eat food, I suggest he eat and try not to lose weight. Try alternative supplements or research bcg vaccine. I heard that the bcg vaccine can be given by most doctors. This vaccine is supposed to boost the immune system. Dont give up good luck

Thanks for the replies, we will keep on fighting.

Dad is home and doing much better. To recap, dad went to the hospital because he was feeling crappy last Thursday. By going to the hospital he broke the hospice contract. It's okay if he wants to go, we will tak him! Dad just wanted to feel better, he does believe that the docs have all the answers. He got a thoracenthesis for 4 days. I had to fight with the nitwit intern doctor and the pulmonligist who said to give up the battle. I got dad home earlier than they wanted him to go home. We now are with a differnet hospice. The nurse who comes is very negative, she said that the thoracenthesis( fluid drainage) was unsuccesful, she has said this 3 times. She said dad is at end stage, again she has said this a few times. She said dad is in denial, because he doesnt want a hospital bed. He doesn't need it, he is walking again. Some hopsice nurses just want you to die!! We just continue. We have 4-6 people here 24 hours a day helping dad. we offer him food, give him the meds, encourage him to walk, talk to him. In 4 days, he has improved. He continues to defy the odds. He eats even though he has no appetite, he tries to walk despite not having strenght. I think he does it for us. He has not given up just yet. I thank all of you for encouraging me to keep on fighting. We can see more quality time in the near future! Ray

Dad has never tried anti-anxiety meds, but he may need them. He gets zoned out enough with the morphine. Why give him more? I think a good nights sleep shall do the trick!!

Praying for a good scan.

You have a right to feel upset and betrayed by god almighty. If his plan is to make his suffer, I don't want any part of him. Who knows? Just try to relax and take a deep breath. Things can get better and they do get better. Go ahead and vent and express your feelings I am with you!

I know what you mean about doing most things for your father despite having other siblings. this is hell, my dad is considered end stage and he is suffering. He can't breath well, has little appetite, has extreme pain at times, he can't walk right now, he has fear and anxiety, he feels pretty bad overall. He doesn't enjoy anything right now. This is pure hell. I hate seeing my dad like this. But we gotta do what we gotta do! Good luck and I hope your dad doesn't suffer as much as my dad.