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  1. I am glad your dad is doing better. Alternative therapies can work. We should look at all options when it comes to our health. Good Luck! ray
  2. rayroy

    1 year

    I am sure your father is still with you. I am glad everyone got together to celebrate your dad's life. I am sure you are making him very proud.
  3. Happy 78 years old it would have been. He has been gone for over 2 months now. I can say it has been easier but sometimes I have some rough moments when I think of WHY my dad! At least I have kept myself busy with graduate school, otherwise I may have gotten into depression. I think we should try to keep busy and try to persevere no matter what. Tomorrow we will give Dad a lot of flowers, especially ones from his garden and balloons. I think he would like that. My mom has taken it pretty hard, she was on valium for a few weeks, now she is getting a bit better. I will try to post here more often as I get more time off from my studies. Good luck to everyone. ray
  4. rayroy

    Ada Waddell

    Ada also provided great comfort for me during our difficult times. I hope she is at peace. I hope her family pulls through this.
  5. May I join in the conversation. My dad passed almost 6 weeks ago. I still cry at times thinking about how he loved life and his grandchildren. I also ask "WHY"? Yes he lived until he was 77, but his siblings have and are living into their 80's or 90's. He couldn't see me get married. I know he wanted to be there in Japan, but mom was sick also. I heard that he saw the video of my wedding many times while he was at home. My older brother told me. It makes me happy and sad. At least he saw my wife and he got to know her. He did give me a lot of advice on life and he told me a lot about his life and how he grew up. Unfortunately most of my siblings didn't bother to get to know him that good. So, I guess I am lucky about that. I will try my best to be a good man like him. He was the best family man, so in his memory I shall be the same kind of man. It may sound crazy, but I hope to die in this house just like him. I am thinking of buying a plot right next to him. Just thoughts, don't know what will happen in the future. For now, I gotta live for me and my wife and our future. Yes it is getting easier, but I wonder if I am having false happiness at times. I want to enjoy life, but I don't and will never forget about Dad. I know he wants us to be happy and carry on, so we shall. I visit his grave 3-4 times a week bring flowers that he grew in the garden. I want him to be close to his flowers. Our Dad's will be with us forever. We shall overcome.
  6. I know it must be hard trying to make decisions during these difficult times. If th e patient wants to continue to fight, then thats a positive step. Chemotherapy may help, but if scans reveal that it is not helping then it may be no use to continue. There are alternative treatments. Many are skeptical, but we tried some fo r my dad. We tried the Hoxsey formula drink, and some other pills. I can say the Hoxsey may have helped him, but for a very short time. I think it may be best to use natural remedies at an early stage with conventional medicine. Also look into clinical trials. Some have vaccines combined with low dose chemotherapy, maybe it can be tolerated. The vaccines are supposed to help boost the immune system and fight against the cancer. I wanted my dad to enroll in clinical trials, but we had problems with the medical insurance. By the time the insurance was squared away it was too late, dad was too weak. Kris, I wish you the best and keep on researching and fighting!
  7. I hope your mom can find comfort. Eventhough things seem grim, there is always hope. There is hope that she can get better by alternative treatments and such. Still, hospice is not an automatic death sentence. My dad enjoyed 2 months of good quality time while in hospice and overall survived 3 and a half months. Enjoy the time you have with your mother, you will cherish it forever.
  8. rayroy

    My Father

    I know ho w you feel. My dad passed away nearly 3 weeks ago, it was a traumatic experience to see him get so sick. It was unfair that he had to endure this, but we cannot change that now. By the way, I also come from a big family. Dad had 7 kids. I think your dad would rather be in heaven than be here and suffer. I am sure he wanted to live, but not without a quality of life. Lung cancer can tear us apart, but in the end we win because we still have our loved ones memories and spirit which will continue forever. I hope you and your family are doing better. ray
  9. Cathy so sorry to hear the news. But at least the pain is over. Now you can focus on the great memories. My dad passed recently and I just remind myself that he is still with me. I am sure your dad is still with you in your heart, memories, and spirit. Still talk to him, it sounds strange, but it works for me. I can imagine him talking to me back. Be strong, and be in peace.
  10. Bobby and Barry Bonds where born in our local area. THe media focuses on bobby being sick, but they don't mention much about the lung cancer. I wonder if its late stage. I wish him the best.
  11. I hope the suffering ends soon. I pray you and your family are with him always!
  12. My dad died 1 day after he stopped eating or drinking. His death was horrible and not good. He tried to breath, he tried to spit out the saliva in his lungs, but he couldn't so he drowned. He stopped breathing. He wanted to still live and breath but he couldn't. Hospice nurses wanted to give him high doses of morphine even if he didnt have pain, what is that? I should be a hospice nurse. I know the routine questions and their routine answers. I don't know, I am just upset that dad had to go this way.
  13. this must be a bad month my dad passed this month also. It is not easy bu I am sure the sun will shine again. Remember that your mom is still with you in your mind, spirit, and memories. At least the suffering is over that's all the consoles me. It is not fair, but what can we do? We have to continue living. I wish you the best!!
  14. I know how you feel. Just know that we are here to support you.
  15. Don I am glad Lucie is a bit better and that there is always somebody near her. My dad didn't liked being left alone, I am sure that goes for anybody who i sbattling this disease. Good luck!
  16. Even though the 2 chemos failed, don't give up. I don't know anything about the particular one you are talking about. I think clinical trials is not a bad idea. They are experimenting with the latest treatments and some may be fda approved very soon. I will try to look up some more info, good luck!
  17. My dad also wanted to make sure that the bills were being taken care of. Your dad sounds like mine. My dad was responsible and wanted to make sure that the family was taken care of. I think your dad wanted things to look foward to like signing checks. I think its good that you still have one of his last signatures. I plan to keep a lot of dad's stuff.
  18. My dad was 77 and receiving chemotherapy. He fared okay, but he didnt like chemo. I can't say whether he would have had a better quality of life or not. Please get second opinions, look up clinical trials. Look up low dose chemotherapy. Try alternative treatments. Of course, the patient should decide, but try to persuade them to look at all options. good luck!
  19. I have heard of it. I was thinking of trying it on my dad, but he was too weak to receive further chemotherapy. I think that it sounds legit. It is costly, but it can be done cheaper in Tijuana,Mexico.
  20. rayroy

    My brave father

    Dad passed away on 8-2-03 at 10:05 pm. His long battle with advanced lung cancer is over. He outlived his prognosis several times but ultimately his body was too tired to fight. He had immense pain and suffering for months. Luckily, the last few weeks he had very little pain. Antonio Villela was born on October 11, 1925 in Santo Domingo, Mexico. He was one of 9 children. He moved to California in the late 50's and worked as an agriculture worker picking grapes, oninions, and oranges. He brought his family to America for a better life and he did provide a better life for all of his family. He worked as a landscaper for the last 30 years until he was diagnosed with lung cancer. He enjoyed gardening, watching classical Mexican movies, and spending time with the family. He was a family man and did everthing for the family. He put others above himself. He didn't care about material possessions, he cared about people and helping others. He was a very kind man and touched all those that knew him. I believe he is still with us in spirit and in our memories. I am glad I came back to California and spent quality time with Dad. I will continue to live for him and our family. He wanted it that way. Cherish each day because life should not be taken for granted. Dad would want it this way. I still can't believe he is not here, he was so strong and loved life. At least the cancer cannot hurt him anymore. I still see dad in my visions and memories. I still talk with him and ask for his advice and I can imagine what he would say. This brings me great comfort. I hope all of you fare much better than dad in your fight against lung cancer. ray
  21. Please accept my sympathies. I know what you are going through my dad passed away on the second of this month. Remember he is still with you in your memories and in spirit! ray
  22. Dad passed away last night at 10:05 pm. He got the last rites 5 hours before. I told him that I would take care of Mom and the family. He was a great man who battled with everything he had and was very brave. Later I will write about this great man and his history. I will be back and remain in this supporting community. May dad rest in peace and I will see him again one day!
  23. Dad still hasn't eaten. He sleeps most of the time. His body seems to be shutting down. At least, it doesn't seem that he has pain. Tomorrow we have to look at funeral homes and strat planning the services. The hospice nurse ssaid he may last days or a couple of weeks. Since he is not eating or drinking it is not good. I think dad's body is tired, he is mentally tired. I think he wants some peace and quiet now. He has lived the past 2 months for us. We have told him to eat this and drink that. He has tried, with all his might but to no avail. He is a fighter, that's how he will always be to me until his last breath. Prayers to everyone out there who is still fighting this horrible disease. I still believe with passion, love, and luck you and your love ones can get better!!
  24. We got a hospice hospital bed today. I think he has called it quits and wants to get the suffering out of the way. It's terrible, but what can we do. He sleeps most of the day, Im afraid the end may be near. Thanks for helping us out during this ordeal. Let's pray dad's suffering is over with soon. Miracles do happen, pray for that too! thanks ray
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