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I did it yesterday and it was like a ton of bricks falling on me. I realized, I think for the first time that I am never going to see my sister again. It hurt so bad....all over again. I think I may have came out of denial just a little bit..I don't want to do that again!

You go Girl!! I am so happy you did that! Your courage is very inspiring. Love, Bobby

Just a saying we have down here. Kinda like saying, Shame on you..but not really meaning it.

That's funny..but that's just wrong, Ginny!!

YES...because I would grab my purse and get in my car and run to the local bar and wait it out til everyone gave up and went home. I sound like a grinch, but I could not imagine having 30 guests in my home right now..it frightens me to think about it.

Took me a few minutes..but I finally got it!! I kept saying to myself..what word would he be saying? Geez!!

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I am sorry, Sloanie. I am glad you were all with her when she passed. I am sure you were a great comfort to her. I know you were a great daughter. Love and Peace, Bobby

You sound like someone I could hang out with. Loved the story!

AMEN, Nova. I think they have been there too long also. My sister's son is over there..they did let him come home and be with his Mom for a month..which was good, but he left to go back Friday of last week. I will be praying for your son in law when I pray for my nephew..which is a lot. Love to you, Bobby

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Sloan, I am sorry you are going through this right now. I just got through it with my sister. She mostly slept through it. She was at peace with everyone and with God when she left us. It is very hard to get through, but it is the right thing to do. Take care, Love, Bobby

I am sorry Leslie. I know she was glad you were with her. I will be praying for you and your family. Take care of yourself. Love, Bobby

Thank you all so much for responding to my post. That meant a lot to me. My Mom called me last night and told me she heard "Blue Christmas" on the radio and thought about me and Beverly singing and she said it made her cry at first, then she started laughing. That made me feel good. I know all of this will take time and I intend to celebrate Christmas with my family this year and enjoy it, because you never know what will happen from one year to another. My parents are both getting close to 80, so there may be only a few Christmas' left to get together with them. I had no idea there were so others on this board with ties to Louisiana. That is nice to see. I am sure you both agree the LSU must beat TENN. this weekend. GEAUX TIGERS!!! Love to all and Merry Christmas! Bobby

Anyone have suggestions on how to get through the Christmas holiday after just losing someone? I know a lot of us are going to be going through our 1st Christmas this year without our loved one..in my case it is my sister. God how I miss her! Every Christmas we used to get together and make a cd of us singing Christmas Carols. I would pretend to be Elvis and she would always be Dolly Pardon. We used to have a blast with this..now, I can't even hear a Christmas song without tears coming down. How do you do it? I know that my sister wants us to be happy and have a great Christmas, but I can't seem to find that spirit.

My nickname is Bobby..real name is Barbara. I have 2 daughters. 1 is 27 and working and my youngest is 18 and just started classes at LSU. (GEAUX TIGERS!) I am a Revenue Inspector for the City. My sister Beverly had SCLC/EXT. and died on October 18,2007, and I miss her very much.

Ken, I really understand where you are coming from. I did lots of research for my sister too. She would not read anything...She left everything up to her doctor to tell her. I wish she could have been a survivor, but that was not God's plan for her. It may very well be God's plan for you though. Keep coming to this site and read the good news and take the bad news with a grain of salt. There are so many here that care about you and want to help you get through this. You can do this...just take things one day at a time. People do survive this. Love, Bobby

I am glad to read that your Mom is improving. That is good news. As far as her relatives coming, I thought the same thing when my sister saw family, that she had not seen in awhile. She never said anything, but I could see in her eyes that she was thinking that she must be dying. We just assured her that they wanted to come and see her because she was in the hospital and not feeling well. I am sure she will enjoy the visit. Take care and keep in touch, Bobby

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That is great news! I am very happy for you and your family. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving Dinner.

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Prayers for a speedy recovery, Rich. Thanks for the info.

Ken, my heart just breaks for you. My sister went through the same thing. She got to the point that she just never wanted to do anything. She regretted that at the end. I don't know if you are going to die or not..it is up to God, but I know that my sister died last month, and she seemed almost happy at the end. Her last words to my Dad were.."I love you Dad, but I have to leave now. She smiled and didn't say anything else. She died a few hours later. She was no saint, but she did believe in God and she knew she was going to a better place. I have had dreams of her since she died, and in all the dreams she was comforting me and she was really happy. I hope you can find peace somehow. Love, Bobby

I remember my sister trying to quit right after she found out. It was so hard for her. She cut down a lot, but she still had to have a cigarette from time to time. I think what made her seriously stop was when her doctor asked her if she was trying to commit suicide. It is so hard to just quit. I would venture to say that it is impossible. Maybe you could get them to consider the patch or gum. There is also a new Rx available..I think it is called Chantix. It is supposed to be good. Dont be too hard on Mom or Dad. They know already they should not be smoking.