stephnewyork34

Hey Dave, sorry you are in a funk! Hang in there, and remember everyone here loves you and is supporting you. Why don't you watch a completely bad film, you know like Weekend at Bernies or something? That may at least make you laugh. hugs from Denmark! Steph

Angie, Hugs to you and your family and my condolences also. I know this is so hard and I am happy that he was with you all when he passed. Take care, Stephanie

Thanks guys, and yes Connie, I am sure Mom is looking down on us, and probably wouldn't want us to be so sad, but I can't help it. My sister and I are IMing now and I spoke with my aunt earlier. Such a hard day, but you all make it easier. HUGS! Steph PS I am sure, knowing Mom, she is happy she didn't have to turn 63. . heheheheh. . .sorry joking is our way. . . .you know what I mean

HUGS to you

Well today is my mom's birthday and it has been just 6 months. I am sooo sad.,I feel worse than I did when she died in March. It was almost impossible for me to even get here to work today. And I know she wouldn't want me to be so sad, but I can't help it. I miss her so much. . . . anyhow, I just needed to vent. I love her and this is soo hard. Thanks for listening.

You never cease to amaze me with your spirit and wisdom and insight and ability to see the world differently than most! Biggest of hugs to you!! Thanks for the story. Steph

Card from Denmark on its way, and lots of love and hugs sent already!!! hehehe, get some rest David!!! and stay off those ladders! HUGS Steph

thanks everyone, and David, I didn't mean old. . .heheheeheh. you are so funny. We will work it out, but all the advice helps so much. This is the business side of it, and I hate it. and I just miss her so much right now, with her birthday comeing up next Wed, this is the last thing I want to be thinking about., I will see if my sister can talk to my stepfather first before we do anymore. HUGS Steph

So sorry to hear of your loss. Big hugs and God Bless you in your time of need.

Hey there Dean, Hang in there, and I am sending you big hugs from Denmark!! You have always been a source of strength for me and my Mom (judy and also gave us courage. . .. thinking of you and hope you feel better soon!! Someone please read this to Dean as I don't think I can call from here and get the time change right and all! Stephanie

Hey everyone, Thanks for all the support and advice. The thing is, she did have a will, but he won't show it to us and is claiming she left it all to him, and this may be true, but there has been some weird things, like that he wanted me to give him full power of attorney over myself before I left for Denmark, and he told my sister how broke they are, etc. Now none of us want money, just like I said, we want the truth and also some of the sentimental things. anyhow, to answer someones post (sorry I don't remember who exactly) no he never liked me, ever, and I know only put up with me becuase he loved Mom. It does suck, but what can a person do? I try to forgive him for being a jerk, but then again, I am going throuh this also, and my feeleings have never even been considered about Mom,. Also I agree that it may not be worth it to get a lawyer involved, we will try to see if we can see the will from Probate I guess, and then go from there. Thanks so much for all your support again. HUGS to all my friends and family here.

Hi welcome to the group, and I have only the advice of drink lots and lots of water. My Mom even went into the clinic a day before her chemo treatments to get hydrated intrveinus(spell?) because she didn't like to drink much liquids, and it helped her so much. . .try that. . . and otherwise, we are here for you and this is a great supposrt group. hugs

Thanks for the posts, my stepfather won't talk to us about it, and I have no idea who his lawyer is etc., so we'll see. It is sucky all together, but I guess at the endof the day, it is just stuff, and he can't take our memories, ya know? RY. . .heheheh, I am a California girl , just away on business. . .hehehe. Hope you are well.

Hi everyone, well I was just reading through a lot of these posts on this section becasue I just passed the 6 month mark of Mom's death and I still can't believe she is gone. I always feel so a lone, way up here in Denmark, away from my friends and family, and looking at all this helped me, becasue I know I am not a lone and hopefully I can find a way to be on the board more often. As I haev mentioned in other posts it is hard from here, but this really helps me, and I love all you guys and my heart goes out to everyone on this board, and I even feel selfish for being a way for so long. HUGS to everyone and Katie B, your post made me cry (but in a good way) from Sept 6th. I hope you know that you and Rick are making a difference in so many lives and your Dad is watching you and smiling for sure, and he is always with you. Steph

Hey Nat, sorry I have been away for so long. I know how you feel., My Mom's birthday is coming up on Oct 13th, and it will be weird to do anything else but think about her on that day. Also you know I don't have a place to remember Mom but in my head, my step father has her ashes and is taking them far away to his family (where I am not welcome) and so I know it can be comforting to go to her grave, it is in your heart she will always be and watching over you, as I know my Mom is with me. Maybe they aer even together watching over us both? Ya know? HUGS and I hope the wedding went well. keep in touch please, stephnewyork32@yahoo.com

Hi old friends, Sorry it has been so long, but it has been a hard summer, and I know that is no excuse, but being in Denmark, I don't have the same access to internet as I did in the states, so it is really hard to get here. My request for help or and advice is this. As many of you know, my mom, Judy B died on March 27th and while her being gone is so devastating, we have another problem. My step father, John, has refused to show us her will (and this is NOT about money) and he even tried to get me to sign full power of attorney over to him the weekend of her death, before I moved to Denmark one week later, resulting in him calling me an "unreasonable, selfish B. .ch". The thing that is worrying to myself and my sister Cris, and my Mom's sister Debbie, is that he is behaving so weird, and I do not beleive that Mom would cut us out like that, since we were all so close. Cris, Debbie and I aggree that Mom wasn't rich, and this is not about money, more about memories and there are things from our childhoods that we would like to have.Mom used to say "sentimental is stupid" but I am very sentimental, and so is my sister. Also John has her house, her car, and all her and our things. We don't know what to do. I am in Denmark, so myhands are a bit tied. Cris is busy with school (grad school), so if any of you have any advice or helpful words please let me know. This is hard enough to go through. It has been 6 months and I still feel the strongest pain, and feel weak becasue I can't handle it. I miss her sooooo much. Anyhow, thanks in advance for your help. my email is this, stephnewyork32 (32 not 34) @yahoo.com thanks again

Hi everyone, Thanks for the nice words. I know Mom would be happy. I am in Denmark working on this animated film called Asterix (it is from a French comic) anyhow. Things have been hectic and I got here just after Mom died. I fear I am not handling it well at all, but I am trying. I have a hard time getting on line, but I just got a computer at home, and am looking into ISPs here, so I should be on more andmore. Thanks again and take care. Please feel free to email me diectly if you want. Stepholivieri@hotmail.com HUGS Steph

Hi all, I logged on as Mom, because I want to read her posts. I have nothing much of her, and I am starting to work again on this book we started together and I want to read her posts etc. I hope this is okay with katie and Rick. anyhow, if you see Judy B online, it is just me getting her posts, or reading them. This is all for her, and to help others like her. I miss her so much sometimes I feel I won't make it,. but knowing that she wouldn't want me to give up, and she would want me to try to help others, I do go on,. As we reacch month five, I find it harder and harder everyday, but also growing some strength, anyhow, just wanted her friends to know it is just me, her daughter. Thanks

I haven't been on in a while due to lack off internet. I am very sad by this news, but I am thinking David and Mom are having a good time together now, and watching over all of us.

Katie you are amazing!

I would love to go on , just to get Moms story out there, She was a smoker, but still it is important, As< I said in the last Oprah post, I wrote to Oprah several times, and now I would be going in my Moms name. But please get intouch with me if this happens. Please.....stepholivieri@hotmail.com thanks. I am in Denmark, but I can leave the film for this if needed. Stephanie for Judy B

Hi Jane, My mom, Judy B, (who passed on March 27, 2004) and I wrote to Oprah several times, with only the standard reply. I really want to get her involved, because she has worldwide coverage,. I haven't been on the board as much as I would like, because I am in Denmark on a film, and don't always get internet time, but can you please keep me in the loop on this one??? stepholivieri@hotmail.com I really want to do something to help this. I promised Mom and even if she was still here, we would be fighting together. Now I do it in her name, for her and her memeory. Steph

yes I want to be involbved, can you email me directly,?? Pleeezeee?? stepholivieri@hotmail.com Thanks, this is great!

sorry for all the pain, my thoughts are with you , take care Steph

Hey guys, I am trying to work on this book Mom and I started, but I may just have to do my own story, anyhow, trying to think of some funny and inspirational things about Mom, maybe some ofyou know some thing I don't. She was the bravest person I knew and I am sooo proud of her for being so strong during all this, but still if you have a funny, chat story, or something, let me know. It has been just over two months and last week a new friend of mine was going through something similar to what I did in MOm's last week and I was a wreck for like 4 days, I mean a wreck, from wishing I had gone to that AIDS ride in 2001, because then I may have been on one of those flights, as many coming from the AIDS ride were. The point is I was feeling like it would have been easier for me if I had died first, but then Mom would have had to go through loosing her daughter to getting lung cancer in the same year. That would have been worse for sure. So my emotions are running all over the place, btu I am trying to focus on the positive and do something to help others, ya know?? Thanks for listening. Stephanie