KC

Lots and Lots of Chocolate!!

My house is a wreck, as usual! I'm certainly not Mary Immaculate, but I have a good heart - hehe.

I'm so sorry Millie. Your Mom sounds so strong and like such a beautiful lady. It is heartbreaking. Stay strong. Much love, Karen

I am the same exact way! I cannot tell you how many times my best friend has screamed at me "STOP THINKING". It has been going on since high school and I'm 41 now. Give yourself the time that you need to heal, it will come slowly.

Alena, I am so sorry for your loss, and so young too. It is very difficult to not replay those last days, nights, moments over and over again in your mind. It is normal. They will subside, I promise you. I did the same thing. It went on for a long time, I have to admit. I thought it would never end. There were days when I also felt like, "was my Dad really EVER here, or was it just a dream". There are so many emotions. It has been 1-1/2 years for me since he passed away. There have been times when I have been fine and then months where I would cry every day. You can't put a time period on grief. It just comes when it comes. But I do PROMISE you that those awful memories of the last days, months, pain will subside. They will. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but they will and you will be able to remember happier times. Of course there are times when those dark days creep back into your mind, but it is not nearly as often. I too felt like you did in the very beginning and I thought it would never end, although others told me it would. It does get better. You will be able to smile again when you think of the happy times. Give yourself some time and feel every emotion that you are entitled to feel. You have to live THROUGH it and by living through it you will begin to heal. I wish you comfort in the days ahead, Alena. Much love, Karen

Bacardi Limon with Cranberry Juice and a twist of lime. It's been a long time but I am due for one!

Oh, Kim, what a beautiful gift you received from your father by getting that photo to you. I love hearing stories like that. I believe with all of my heart that he had a hand in it too. I never got to dance with my Dad at my wedding, I never got married. I'll always regret that. Much love.

I'm crying with you, Pam. I know how hard it is. It's so very very hard. I think the second year has been harder than the first. My dad will be gone 2 years on March 21st. What I wouldn't give to have him here with me again. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

One word. Carmela.

I am very supersticious. But the strange thing is, I consider Friday the 13th a lucky day.

Joyce, You dear Steve is such a fighter. God bless him. I will be praying for you and Steve that you may both find comfort and peace in the days ahead. I am so sorry for this turn of events.

When my beautiful Daddy as diagnosed with NSCLC in December of 2001, I was on a mission to find something, anything to save him. I came across this site way back then, when it was just an unstructured sort of message board, so to speak. I remember certain members were here then, like Fay A., ConnieB I think Kerrytoo. Probably a few others I don't recall. When I moved from NYC to FLA. in December of 2003, I lost the link to that board (this board) and forgot all about it's existance (I had so very many things bookmarked, my brain was on overload). When I finally remembered I searched for it again and reconnected around September 2003, shortly before my Dad's death in March 2004. I am so disspointed I didn't find LCSC again much sooner. This site had evolved into such a wonderful, caring support group, thanks to the efforts of Katie and Rick and Connie and all the other behind the scenes. I couldn't believe it. It would have been such a great source of support for me those 9 months without it, as it has been from the day I reconnected until the present. That's my LCSC story.

Millie, I know you are looking for some opinions. I can't tell you what you should do, but I do understand how very very hard these decisions are and how nerve-racking they can be to be. I just want you to know that I hope and pray that you will be at peace with whatever you decide is best for your dear Mom and if you feel that a second opinion is in order and you don't want to leave any stone unturned, then by all means do it. You need to be able to have some peace of mind with making your decision. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Cindi, I am so happy and relieved for you!! Great news!! And, yes, I did the same thing with the will and who gets what and all I was doing was getting a CT chest scan and a breast biopsy (and I don't even have cancer).

Congratulations Don!!! ENJOY, ENJOY, ENJOY. So happy for you! Karen

Berisa, I am sorry for your pain. I am sorry for all of our pain. I wish somehow it would all go away, but I don't think it ever will. The hurt is too deep. It has been 18 months since my Dad passed and it still hurts terribly. Sometimes the scenes go through my mind like looking through a picture book or watching a video. Some are happy memories, others are the painful days, but they are all still there, but so is the love...the love can never be taken away. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and I understand how you feel and I know our Dad's are in peace now in a happy place watching over us.

ENJOY, Jamie! Have a beautiful celebration with your precious baby boy!

You are truly amazing Fay. I know your new treatments will do some whoop *ss on that new primary. May you have a wonderful, glorious 51st birthday and many, many, many more.

Believe in true love that would last forever. Hug my Dad and feel safe.

I Love Lucy too, Kaffie!! Jang and Aimee, I once danced with Bruce Springsteen at a club down the Jersey Shore sometime in the early 90's! Kissed him too (on the cheek). He was walking around, hanging out and then went up on stage to sing a few songs. It was awesome. Of course, no one brought their camera out that night! Maryanne, we must have the same taste in men. I love me some Andy Garcia. He was the first person who came to my mind when I read the question. Hee.

Jen, Praying for you and that you find the correct answer and solution. I am so sorry you have to go through all of the uncertainty on top of everything else you are struggling with. Please keep us posted.

This is by far the best support group on the web and I just want to ditto everything Andrea said. Also, Larry, pretty funny stuff re: the cabbage. Thanks for the chuckle.

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Consider it dropped. Curtis should show his true colors to everyone, not just via PM. Personally, I think he should have posted it directly under mine, if he felt so inclined to say what he said. I don't need his nonsense or his smart mouth. Have a good evening. I'll say no more.

From: curtisg To: KC Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 6:33 pm Subject: butt out The next time you get the feeling you shouldn't butt in, go with that feeling. The above is a PM I received from Curtis. Apparently, he feels he is entitled to tell others where, when and what they should post, but he believes it doesn't apply to him. Sorry, I hate to make trouble, I really do, but I don't need aggravation like this. How childish. Sorry to trouble you all with this baby, high school stuff. You think after all we have all been through here, things like this would never happen. It's amazing, truly.