Caren

Congratulations, Muriel.

You will remain in my thoughts!! Well done for the Lung Cancer Awareness night!! I am holding one here in November too.

I am so sorry to hear that your mum has been given this prognosis (((HUGS))) The sickness could be any number of things, ranging from the combination of drugs to stress of the whole situation. I would speak with her Doctor because if it is the Pain medication causing the sickness then they may be able to change it to something that will better suit her. Thinking of you all at this very hard time.

Thinking of you and hoping that it is all just a Cyst.

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Alyssa (((HUGS))) Happy Birthday to your daughter...my daughter is also celebrating her Birthday today, she is 14. I know exactly how you're feeling, I would love for my dad to be here today and be celebrating with us and, no, words don't always help. Today also marks exactly 11 years since my husband lost his nan to Stomach Cancer too I'm sure that your mum is very proud of her little Granddaughter and of course of her daughter too!!!

I haven't cried for quite a few days now, although there isn't a minute of the day that I'm not thinking of dad and just how much I miss him. It has been 3 weeks and 4 days now, since he left us, yet it feels like I've been walking through an invisible fog for so much longer than that. I feel quite strange actually because I feel as though I am coping pretty well with everything and yet my mother in law mentioned last weekends horrendous weather and yet I can't recall what the weather was like and so that shows that I may be awake and going through the motions of each day, but I must have my mind elsewhere most of the time. My husband and children have been wonderful and so thoughtful of my feelings. I love them all so much.

Alyssa Alarm bells would ring for me with them wanting to charge that amount of money for a phone consultation. They will hear the panic and desperation in your sister's voice and use this to their advantage. Now there are some very good mediums out there, but I would say that there are a lot more fakes than genuine mediums. I don't believe that a real, good, medium would charge anywhere near that amount of money. I would try and talk your sister out of this and maybe see if you can talk her into attending a Spiritualist Church for a few weeks instead.

Hi Joyce Thanks for taking the time to reply. I'm glad that your husband is doing well following his surgery for Prostate Cancer. My dad was also diagnosed with this and they kept it under control with Hormone Therapy and so I know that it isn't always something to worry too much about. It just seems so unfair that he just loses his brother (his only surviving sibling) to find out that he could now be facing the 'big C' himself

Thank you all (((HUG))) Judy, my dad's ashes will be buried in a plot at our Village Churchyard. We have to wait for a date for the Memorial and Interment to become available. Turns out that my Uncle may be facing Prostate Cancer...things just seem to be going wrong from every angle right now.

step off and take a breath! So as you all know it's been 2.5 weeks since my dad's passing. Sometimes it seems like he's been gone for longer and others it seems like he just left yesterday. Yesterday I took a phone call from my son's school to say that they fear he has broken his wrist during a football game. So I go round there and having looked at the wrist decided that it needed Medical attention. This meant taking him the the Accident department of the hospital in which my dad passed away. I really didn't want to have to go back to this hospital so soon, but knew that I had to be strong and do this for my son. I was feeling a little shaky as I walked in, but once inside I settled down. We were'nt near the section of the hospital that my dad stayed in, so that made it a little easier for me. My son hasn't any broken bones, but does have a suspected fracture of the schapoid bone in his wrist and so has a cast on there for precautionary measures. They will examine him again in 2 weeks. The date is 22-6 ....marking 1 month since my dad's passing I then received a call last night to say that my Uncle (Dad's only living sibling) has been admitted to that same hospital with a DVT and Renal Failure. My Aunt seems to be quite upbeat about things and told me that it's nothing to worry about and not to feel that I had to go into the hospital to visit with him, but how could I stay away?!?! So I will be going this afternoon and this time I will be going to the same section of the hospital that my dad was on. The same floor but a different ward. I just hope that I can hold myself together while I'm visiting with him. It's my eldest daughter's 14th Birthday next Wednesday and usually I would be getting very excited for her by this time, but I'm not and she's not either. She told me that she feels bad to be happy that her Birthday is coming and I told her that she should not feel that way b/c Grandad knows that her life has to go on and that she has to enjoy every minute of her special day. Then we have Father's Day the following Sunday.........My husband, myself and my dad never made a big fuss of Father's Day. We all agree that these days are just money making schemes for big companies. Although we did buy a card. My Dad's ashes haven't been interred yet and so I don't even feel that I have anywhere to go and spend time with him on that day

Calintay I have to say that I was absolutely disgusted when my 10 year old daughter was telling me that she was learning about the dangers of smoking and at 11 years old she had her first sex Education lesson. Having spoken with the Teachers they said that if you look at the bigger picture and see just how many children of those ages are smoking and partaking in Sexual activities then you can gain a better understanding of the importance of making them all aware at such a young age. After doing some research on smoking and Sexual activities in children I can now fully appreciate why our 'babies' have to be taught these lessons so early in life.

This is how I seem to be with my emotions right now. Yesterday I was feeling guilty because I hadn't cried for two days and I was telling my husband that there are people stating that they can not live without their parents and yet I don't feel that way. I just feel numb. Yet today the flood gates of tears came, right after the children headed off to school, and I felt that I couldn't control them. I had to go and register dad's death with his bank today and close down his bank account. It really hurts me to do these things because I feel that with every person of authority that I inform I am closing another door on my dad's life His ashes are waiting at the Funeral Parlour for me to collect, but I just can't bring myself to go and get them. It makes me quite sick to think of where he went when that final curtain was drawn at the Service last week and every time I think of what was left of his body in a tiny box it makes me feel physically sick. I will speak with the Reverend and set a date for interment. There is already a family plot waiting for him and so I may see if the Funeral director will bring his ashes straight to the church for me. I'm not sure if they will do that, but I guess I can ask?

Hi Marci I am so sorry that you're feeling this way right now (((HUG)))

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Hi Brian. So sorry that you have had this diagnosis, but wanted you to know that you have come to a wonderful place for support and advice.

I would like to offer you a (((HUG))) and to say that, like you, I hope that the pain lessens with time. I'm sure that it will.

Congratulations, Alisa!!

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Last night is the first night in months that I have slept soundly. I fell asleep on the sofa at around 10:30pm, with the dog and a nice warm quilt, and my darling hubby left me to sleep when he went up to bed. I didn't wake again until 7am when I heard a torrent of rain!! But I went back to sleep and didn't wake until around 9:30am. I feel a little 'out of sorts', I think I had a little too much sleep, but I'm guessing I must have really needed it.

Donny I am wishing you all the luck with this new treatment!!! Hope you have a great day next week too!

Bud I am so sorry to hear of Rose's diagnosis and I will keep her, as well as yourself, in my thoughts throughout her surgery and treatments.

Thank you all so much! As some of you know arranging and attending the final goodbye to one of your parent's is probably the hardest thing that we can face in life. I am lucky enough to have a wonderful support network, in real-life as well as on-line, who have helped me tremendously. A great family friend who has known our family for almost all of my life traveled over 200 miles to be here and support me, Harry and the children. When I couldn't find the strength to walk outside of the house and meet the cortege yesterday it was Elaine who helped me take those steps, it was her who sat between two of my children while I held the youngest and my husband throughout the service and it's her who is here with us today. I could never thank her enough for doing that for us. My eldest daughter, who is almost 14, wrote a tribute that she really wanted to read out during the service, but she was crying so much that she couldn't bring herself to stand. The Reverend took the tribute and read it out. It was lovely, but heartbreaking to hear the love that she has for her Grandad and the pain that she is suffering at his loss. It is just so hard.....

I'm sorry that you're having to face doing this, Judy (((HUG))) but I do think that now is probably the right time for you. It is so hard for us having to deal with everything for my dad because he hadn't told us much and then left us a lot quicker than anyone anticipated and so we are left not really knowing if what we done, in the way of funeral arrangements, is what dad would have wanted.

Paul I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. (((HUGS)))