WOW! This is a good one.
I am usually the one who stays calm. My whole family can be ready to go to blows and here I am saying stop-sit down and lets talk.
If my my hubby is losing it and has been losing it for days I finally can not take it, I get sarcastic, what ever he says-"I am so sick of ____ not having a job" I will reply, me too really sucks huh? He calls me a smart aleck, and I will say yeah that sucks too huh. I just keep replying til he stomps upsatirs to the bedroom and slams the door. I just sit on the couch with a mean grin like-gotcha!
I hardly EVER yell. I think it comes from growing up with a screaming dad. Plus my first hubby was really mean and loud when he drank.
I just try to talk it out. Or hold it in. Probably not the best way but if all else fails-
I CLEAN HOUSE!!