KerryToo Posted September 15, 2005 Share Posted September 15, 2005 My Mom has been having an increasingly hard time breathing. She was admitted to the hospital on Tuesday evening. After multiple tests and x-rays it turns out that my Mom actually has progression of disease. Apparently, this form of cancer is pretty agressive so that explains her quick, downward spiral. The doctors say that the cancer has built up an immunity to the Tarceva. They do think that considering her stage of NSCLC, that the Tarceva really did work well for quite a long time. My brothers met with the oncologist, hospice and social services with my Mom today (I am out of state or I'd have been there). They recommend assisted living. My Mom has always said she didn't want to go into a facility. Thankfully, my brothers insisted that she be permitted to go home with assisted care. They stood up and said that money is not the issue here - giving my Mom the ability to stay in her own home is more important. I'm so proud of them for pushing the issue and insisting that we fulfill what she wants. This is so hard - I'm tired of this disease and all that it has taken from me. I'm going to go see her but I'm the biggest emotional wimp when it comes to my Mom - and I don't know how I will find the strength to go home to say goodbye. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Dear Kerry, So sorry to hear about your dear mother. From reading your Signature I can certainly see that you must have had your fill of this LC. So many family members over the past 5 years can certainly take a toll on one. My thoughts and prayers are with you now. Keep us all posted on how things go for you. (((Hugs))), Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazy Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 I'm sorry to hear about your mother...it must be so hard when you've already seen so many others thru it. I know, in the case of my FIL, I get SO angry at this illness ~ how hard our loved ones fight! Sometimes, my anger keeps me from being able to simply be "there" for him...I get afraid of just losing it. (I have had a couple of "meltdowns" when we go visit, but, hey...that's what showers are for ) I know, at this time, advice probably doesn't really offer much comfort. But, I can certainly send MANY prayers for comfort to you, and your family. Hang in there, and try to enjoy your visit. ~ Stacey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Hi Kerry, This is so hard for you, but hang in there and just be there for her. That is the best medicine, having her kids around her. I am so sorry that there is so much history in your family from this dreaded disease. Please make sure you and your brothers get CT scans taken just for a precaution if you smoke or don't smoke. As I personally feel, that DNA has something to do with this disease. I pray you mom will be comfortable, and stay strong for her. We are always here for you. You can use our shoulders to lean on or cry on. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Sorry about your mom, Kerry. It is always hard to see a parent go downhill. My prayers are with you all. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MilliBr1 Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Kerry I am so sorry. You all are in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzie Q Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Aw, Kerry. Hugs and prayers coming your way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzie Q Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Aw, Kerry. Hugs and prayers coming your way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 I'm so sorry, Kerry. I hated that day in our story. If you need someone to cry with or just a hug please PM me. For now know that you are much loved and my prayers are with you and your Mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slinaresholz Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Very sorry to hear about your Mom. She will probably be happier in her own home with help. Hope they are keeping her comfortable. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 oh Kerry, Very sorry that this is what is going on with your Mom. Mom's with cancer is bad enough and to be separated by distance just seems to add to the misery. I know what a helpless feeling this is. Take Val up on her offer...(Treebywater) She is a young woman with a great deal of wisdom and a huge heart! Just wish this weren't happening. Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail p-m Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Kerry, I was so sorry to read your post. I know you initially thought your mom had pneumonia and that can be dealt with. I believe my father is nearing where your mother is at and I am a long distance away and considering a leave of absence from work. Believe me, I know how hard it is. I'm so sorry. Sending prayers and hugs your way. gail p-m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Kerry, I'm so very sorry to hear that your mom isn't doing well. I know how very hard this must be for you and your brothers. Thank goodness they are cooperative and attentive to your mom. It sounds like you guys make a wonderful support team for her. I think it is great that she will be staying home. I know that would be my wishes. I hope your visit with your mom is filled with only good times and that you make a lot of wonderful memories together! Remembering your mom in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 I'm sorry, Kerry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 I'm so disappointed to hear it wasn't pneumonia, honey, and I am so sad for you that this is where your family is right now. you poor thing. your family hx is shocking and sad. I will keep you in my thoughts during this sad, sad time. xoxo bunny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lindseysmom Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Kerry, I am so sorry to read about your Mom. Your Mom is lucky by having such wonderful children, as you and your brothers. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Best Wishes, Dee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pammie Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Very sorry to hear you mom is not doing well. What a blessing to have sons to take care of her and see she gets her wishes fulfilled. there is not a thing wrong with being emotional. it would be strange if you did NOT feel grief and sadness about your mom. Don't be too hard on yourself. Children that love and appreciate their parents are a wonderful gift. Your mom feels very blessed. Praying for her and your whole family. pammie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 oh kerrie, here we were so relieved to find out it was pneumonia.... only to have the other shoe drop huh? I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this especially from a distance. When you do get to go see Mom, you will be surprised how strong you really can be..you will be there for her every step of the way and she will be forever grateful for the love and strength you show her. I am praying so hard for your entire family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darci Posted September 19, 2005 Share Posted September 19, 2005 Kerry, I am so sorry. It must be so hard to see your mom, as well as so many family members, go through this. Your mom is very blessed by having such a loving family, and I am sure that you will help her through this time. Take care of yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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