SJAS Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Hello to my special friends at LCSC, I have not been able to come to the board much since Steve's passing. I would like to say it is because I have been so busy (well, I HAVE been busy...),but it is just difficult for me to be here right now. I'm afraid that my adjustment has not been entirely without some pitfalls. I just had to check in on some of my old friends and was saddened to see that many are facing such difficult times. I want you to know that I think of you often. As for us, we are getting through each day. Our sons seem to be doing well. Unfortunately, Steve's elderly mother has not coped well and so I have moved her into our home. None of us had realized how much Steve had been doing to sustain his mother's indpendence. But it is a blessing to have her fill a bit of the gaping hole in our lives. I have not been able to do as much with our local Lung Cancer Aware group as I would like due to a heavy work schedule. However, I am very involved with the Lung Cancer Alliance CA Steering Committee. It does help me to feel like we are still fighting back. I send my best wishes to all and beg your forgiveness for my long absences. I continue to be deeply grateful for this website and all the marvelous people here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilyjohn Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Joyce it is good to hear from you. Believe me we all understand how hard it can be to come here sometimes after your loss. I still have a problem with that at times and it has been over 3 years for me now. Do what is best for you but know that we all care and want you to keep in touch. It is very good of you to look after Steve's mom. I'm sure too that it is good for you. You are so lucky to have each other. Please take care and don't let work become your whole life. I know how easy that can happen. Let us hear from you as often as you feel up to it. I will pray that the days become easier for you to cope with. Lillian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Joyce, Take the time to fill your soul again before reaching out to others. We understand. Sometimes, there is nothing left to give and we need to recharge. Take the time you need, lean if you need to, the love and support here go both ways. xxoo, Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Joyce, Easy to understand, a rest period helps. Steve's Mom will fill some of your time. Keeping busy for me was a way of feeling better, but still we have to live our grief our own way before we can see that the sun is still shining. Love and Hugs. Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 I am glad you checked in with us. Steve would be so happy to know you are caring for his mom. Check in when you can, we understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Joyce, I'm so glad you checked in. I can only imagine how hard it must be to come here after your loss. Hope you will take the time you need, but not forget that you are still a part of this family. You will always be welcome here. God Bless. Love, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michelepal Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Joyce, I my Heart goes out to you and your family at such a difficult time. I only recently joined this group of wonderful people after losing my Father to NSCLC on 11-18-05 he was only 66 years old way to young just like your husband. We have to keep telling ourselves that there not in pain any more and try to find comfort in that. Stay Strong Michele Father Dx 4-01-05 NSCLC Passed Away 11-18-05 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 wonderful to hear an update on you and your going's on in your family, Joyce. Thanks. Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 I am so glad to hear from you, Joyce. I think of you often. Much love P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 nothing to forgive, Joyce. thank you for taking the time to say hello and let us know how you are. I suppose pitfalls are to be expected. I can only begin to imagine how hard this has been on all of you, but I am glad to hear the boys are OK and your mother in law, at least, has you to lean on. check in whenever you want, we're always here. xoxo amie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Glad you stopped by, Joyce. Thanks for the update on you and family. Take care. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calintay Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Joyce - Take care of yourself and try not to be to busy take sometime for yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Joyce it was wonderful to see your Pic again on our boards.... I know it can be tough coming here. So many times I have said... "I need a break, I need to walk away from this for a while" but, I can never seem to pull away, something is pulling me here, so for now, I think this is where I am mean't to be... I think your mother in law is a particularly lucky woman to have a wonderful daughter in law like you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nancy c Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 God bless you and only worry about YOU at this point. You have been though alot and you need to take care of yourself. I wish you peace and comfort,Love, Nancy C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Joyce, was glad to see your post and to see that you are very busy. I believe that is the best way to handle this 'new normal'. Visit us and update us as you have time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Joyce, it was so very good to read your post. I am so glad you are there to care for Steve's mom. Please take care of yourself and keep us posted on how life is going. I know how you are feeling right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Hi Joyce, Good to see you post. It is understanable. You do what you have to do. We are not going anywhere, we are always here if you need us. I see you are working hard. Please take some time for yourself also. take care, Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Joyce,it is good to hear from you.Thanks for checking in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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