peacelover Posted September 29, 2006 Share Posted September 29, 2006 My dad.. Next to my mom he is the strongest person I have ever known. He also has what I call the martyr syndrome. He will not let anyone help him with my mom. Don't misunderstand, mom is fully functional and mobile and all that but there are chemo rounds every 3 weeks and weekly trips to the doc and Scans upon scans-you all know about that. I live 30 minutes away and have plenty of time off work that I could take to help. He is an electrical contractor and just started to work again and is working 12 plus hours a day. My mom will be going back to work soon, but she cannot drive, so he will be going to work via her work and then back to pick her up in the afternoon. I volunteer to help all the time and he says 'your mom is not your responsibility she is mine' I have let him know how concerned I am about his own health and call everytime I know there is an appt to offer a ride to give him a break and he will not ever let it happen. This week he said 'St Paul is a big place and you would not know where to take her but thanks for offering' I take her flowers almost everytime I go to their house on the weekends and always get the lecture that I should not be spending my money on that-bring them dinner and get the same lecture. I think there is nothing wrong with trying to help-I guess he has thinks I am the child and should not be taking care of them.....hmmmmm Anyone else have a well parent that will not let anyone do anything for them to help? Any creative ways you can suggest to get dad to let me help! I know this is just his way of coping and I accept that-I just do not want him to feel all alone in this fight Blesings to all Melissa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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