Mendy Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 There have been many times that I have wanted to post about being frustrated but have refrained because I didn't want to whine when it is my husband who is fighting for his life but...after 7 months of surgery, chemo, and radiation I am tired. It wouldn't be so bad to work and take care of dh and the house but when a 3 year old and a 5 year old are added into the mix I am just worn out. There have been some days that are better than others when my dh feels energetic enough to help around the house or take a turn reading the kids their bedtime stories but those days haven't been here in a while. He finished the 33 radiation treatments a couple of weeks ago and his energy still hasn't returned. Add to the mix that it looks like he won't have a job to return to. I know he is frustated as well. Hopefully life will return to something resembling normalacy in a few weeks and he will find a job. I'm sorry to complain when we are very lucky that there is not cancer showing at this point. Thanks for listening/reading. Mendy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma's kid Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 ((((Mendy)))) I am not in your shoes..but wanted you to know that it's absolutely fine that you post your frustrations. I think every single one of us have felt the same sort of feelings, whether we voice them or not. You are doing so, so much and it's important for your well being to try and arrange some *alone* time for yourself. It really will help. Just know we are here, ok! Sending love and prayers Libby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terriep Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 I really don't have any magic words to comfort you, but know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers tonight. What lovely children you have! ((((Hugs)))). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather_T Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 You have every right to be frustrated and tired. I get the same way. Maybe you can get someone to take the kids for a few nights just to have some quite in the house. Sometimes that is all I want is just some peace and quite or maybe treat yourself to a spa package for the day. I know this does not fix anything but it may help a little. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastCoastLadi Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Mendy, Of course you're tired, look at all you have been thru, there is only one you, but yet you are being "pulled" in so many directions. I used to tell my family, I wasn't Superwoman, so if things weren't perfect, heck no, even just average, too bad, I can only do so much. At the time my husband was going thru all his battle, I knew that we were going to have to live moment to moment, I couldn't plan anything big, it just wasn't possible, in fact when I thought about the future, near or far, it was too much, too overwhelming, so the best thing I could do was to stay in the present. Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Of course, you're tired and frustrated. You wouldn't be human if you weren't. I was tired all through my wife's LC and I didn't have two little ones vying for my attention. Come here and vent anytime. That's one of the things we do for each other. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 ((Mendy)), I can't add to the wisdom of what the other's have posted. I too feel weary and don't have all the "extras" that you are dealing with. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and holding you in my heart. It is so hard to stay strong sometimes... Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 I remember being where you are now. It will get better. He will get some energy and he will be able to help. Until then, you need to ask all those people that said "if you ever need anything" to help you out a bit. My mom did laundry for us-- I never asked her, she just showed up--and we had some meals dropped off by neighbors. I know it is hard to ask but please do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 (((((Mendy))))) This forum is meant to be a safe place to come with those frustrations. Because we've all been through the, "I am exhausted and hurting and this hard, but my loved one is the one with the cancer," days. I wish I could come over and babysit. I would in a heartbeat... Definitely do find the people who said, "If there's anything I can do...." and give them specific tasks, or find out what they'd be most comfortable offering. You can't do this all alone--especially with kiddos in the mix. Praying that you'll all be able to keep on keeping on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 You would be inhuman not to feel that way!! I am glad you posted b/c others must feel the same way and will be glad to know they are not alone. Thinking of you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Everything gets amplified when dealing with LC. Just because the disease is the focus doesn't mean that everything else goes away, just the contrary, all the other stuff seems to be worse because the ability to deal with it just isn't there. I think it's pretty normal the EVERYTHING is a bit too much right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowergirlie Posted March 25, 2007 Share Posted March 25, 2007 It is so hard when you are the one that has to pull yourself back up and be the strength for everyone, believe me, I know. Please let us help you find renewed strength. Sending you positive thoughts and energy! Flowergirlie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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