Bev'sSister Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 WOW! Did I get a dose of it and big time. My sister wanted me to go to the graveyard with her to put some flowers on Beverly's grave, and the tombstone had been put up that morning, but we had not been notified of that. It was like everything came crashing down when I saw that tombstone. I think I stay so deep in denial that I almost went into shock when I saw it. Is that normal? It is a beautiful tombstone though,and we were able to get some beautiful silk flowers for her. It was a tough day to get through, but we did and I know she is happy that we were able to enjoy Christmas even though we missed her terribly. I hope everyone was able to manage ok as well. Love to all, Bobby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nyka69 Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 Bobby, your reaction is totally normal. There have been several doses of reality thrown my way since my husband passed. I think I've absorbed that he's gone, then something happens to drive it home again. Like I get mail addressed to "the survivors of Joe" and I feel like throwing up. This Christmas was the first for many of us and I have to say that I'm glad it's over. And I'm glad we survived it. Big hugs to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 i can remember vividly the first time I saw Daddys grave stone - it was so FINAL... really felt like I had been kicked in the stomach. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 "KatieB" Denial is a nice place to live (or have extended visits) but those doses of reality are such a shock. Oh -- ain't that the truth!! I'm a "regular" in the land of denial, still waiting for him to magically come home. Then the reality hits and it feels like some lunatic is maniacally laughing while they twist the knife that resides in my heart. Hugs and HUGE kudo's to all for getting through this, the first of many "firsts" for us. We did it!! Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 Hi Bobby, There is no grave marker for Bill (he didn't want one), but I would think that would be a HUGE shock to see for the first time. Huge. I check Bill's email every other week or so, just in case. Well a day or two before Christmas he received an email from a former work colleague who didn't know he had passed. It was so strange to have to email him and say those words. Then to receive the shocked response back. Reality once again. I know that I'm not even close to accepting it completely. Intellectually, yes. Emotionally and spiritually, not even. But Bobby -- I just know Bev and Bill have met up in Heaven! Good to hear from you, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bev'sSister Posted December 26, 2007 Author Share Posted December 26, 2007 Terri, I feel certain they have met and I also feel certain they were watching us to be sure we enjoyed Christmas with our family this year. I can still feel Beverly's presence. It is comforting to me. I hope you have a great 2008..somehow, I know you will. Love to you, Bobby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbb Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 I would say anything we feel now is normal I still meet stunned people who saw Rod's obit in the paper and didn't know he was sick or that he was THAT sick. I'm so thankful we made it through Christmas, my friends. To a better New Year. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueeye Posted December 27, 2007 Share Posted December 27, 2007 Wow Bobby, I'm sure that hit hard. I just stare at Daddy's marker like I can't believe it. Now I have to go pick one out for Mom. Yesterday was just the longest day. It was horrible and I miss my Mom and Dad so much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted December 27, 2007 Share Posted December 27, 2007 Wait til the Grass starts to grow in over the Site! Thats really hard to see. Wishing everyone Peace Comfort and Hugs wrapped IN BIG WARM BLANKETS FROM THE DRYER!!!!!! Love and Peace Randy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brandyswa Posted December 27, 2007 Share Posted December 27, 2007 I am proud of each and everyone of you for making it through such a hard time. The Holidays are tough and you will never forget your loved ones. You all deserve a pat on the back and a big (((hug)))) to each of you. Brandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vespa68 Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Hello Everybody, I haven't around much lately. I too just wanted the holidays to pass as quickly as possible. My mom loved Christmas and the shopping and making cookies and that great stuff that brings families together. This was my 1st Christmas without her and there is such a hole in my heart. Mom passed away November 9th and when I went to the cemetery Christmas Eve morning her marker had just been added that morning. That was such a great Christmas gift. She nows tells the world Here I Am! I hated not seeing her name on the crypt, but at the same time I could pretend that she wasn't really in there. Overall I am very happy that her name and dates are there. I thought a lot about those who lost their love ones this past year to this ^%@$*^#@ disease and I pray for happiness for all of you. Lung Cancer may have taken them way too soon but it will NEVER destroy their spirit. They will live on in us and we keep them alive through stories about the happier time. Big hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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