Lillee0708 Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 Dad lost his battle with cancer Tuesday night. My sister and I were visiting him around 7:00. His breaths were so quick and shallow, we knew the inevitable was close. I decided to ask the nurse if she was able to give us any time frame as to how much longer it would be. She suggested calling any family members and making arrangments to be out of work......that it was going to be within 24 hours. She had told us with the passing of her mother that she held a constant bedside vigil and it wasn't until she left her that she let go. We told Dad we were leaving and that we would be back. I told him it was ok to go to sleep and he could let go if he needed to. I told him I loved him, I knew he loved me and how he was such a great father. He waited until we were gone. We were just about to walk out the door to go back because we were going to stay overnight. I guess he didn't want us to see him go. He is finally at peace. The chaplin from the hospice is going to do the service. Being that my dad wasn't a very religous person, he had confided in her during his stay there, so it just seems appropriate. He told her that he wanted to be remembered. She said that while he was there he wanted to help everyone else, thats just the way he was. The viewing is tomorrow and the funeral Saturday. The hardest part of all. I feel such a relief that he is no longer suffering, but I just feel as though a huge piece of me is missing. Who am I going to call when there's something wrong with my car, or I need a suggestion on how to cook something? These are the things that are eating me up. I could go into more detail but it would take forever. I think I may have to post here for many months to come. I can't explain enough how much everyones' replies mean to me. I miss you Dad Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patti B Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 ((((((Lillee))))))) I know that no words can help. Please just know that we are all here for you and will continue to be here for you when you need us. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Many hugs - Patti B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 thoughts and prayers for strength right now! I know how hard this is and it does get harder before it gets easier.. take care of yourselves and each other right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 I am so sorry for your loss. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CherylNJ Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 I'm so so sorry. Hopefully you can find comfort with the fact that he's at peace and no longer in pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueeye Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Oh Lillee, I so understand and I am sorry. I just had a car issue and went round and round asking lots of opinions and thought "my Daddy would have told me that right off". Keep coming here...we are here to help. Hugs, Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda74 Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 I am so sorry that your dear father lost his struggle with this dread disease. Take care of yourself. Remember that love and memories live forever. Do come her often. We will all be here for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 (((Lillee))), I am so very sorry. Know that we will be here for you.. ALWAYS.. Hugs, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb73 Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Lillee, I am so very sorry for your loss. Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 (((Lillee))) I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. Hoping that these next days and weeks pass as gently as possible for you and your family. Come here whenever you need to -- people will understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wondermom Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 Lilee, I am so sorry. I know what you mean about feeling relief that he is no longer suffering, that was my initial feeling when I first lost Daddy. I was just so happy he was finally at rest. Please know my thoughts are with you. Love, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieJane Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 I am very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shellit74 Posted October 28, 2008 Share Posted October 28, 2008 Lillee, I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. I hope that you made it through Saturday alright. PM anytime... I understand how it feels to lose a Dad. Shelli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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