Wow, that is a loaded question. We sure have thrown that around here, should we be told statistics, if 160,000 die but 20,000 live which should be emphasized. However I remember when I was in Nursing School, a young kid who asked if he was going to die from this cancer, his parents did not want him to know, but I think he did know. I began to think he did not trust anyone , he new we were "lying" to him. He did die.
For myself, being an RN, going to a clinic for shoulder and chest pain, thinking I needed a muscle relaxer, but being told I lung lung cancer- wow! I knew that Pain is NOT an early sign of lung cancer. I was devasted.
My next appointment was with an internist, who set up appointment with Pulmonary, CT biopsy, Onocology, etc. Finally when I saw Dr Duane and he told me he felt I could be cured it was "hope" that I felt, still a lot of fear but some hope. I had a Pancoast Tumor, larger than a golf ball up under my right clavicle, boy was that hard to biopsy! I know I was not Stage I. Here I am nearly 7 yrs later, celebrating many Christmas Holidays more, many more Birthdays, more Anniversaries etc that I never thought I would see. Keeping NED close by.
My point --Stats only mean a lot in hind site, Honesty is necessary . Hope goes a long way. I think listening is most important , finding out what goals the patient has, as "to live til" or " to be comfortable" " not to be a burden" etc are also very important . You say your group works as a team, the team can help find solutions to these worries.
Donna G