Andrea B.

I wish I could make it all go away for you. Oh how I wish none of us had to be here. Will be holding out good thoughts that it is nothing! All my best to you.

Many positive thoughts being sent your way. All my best.

That is beautiful, thanks for sharing. What an honor for Becky, you and your family. Blessings to you.

Prayers and many positive thoughts for you.

When the cancer metastisized to my mom's liver her appetite went quickly too. She said things either had no taste or tasted bad. My mom never liked ensure, but there is a "juice" also that is packed with calories that she drank for awhile. Sorry I can't remember the name.

Sorry this is so late Berisa...but so happy all turned out normal with your mom's brain MRI! I have been thinking of you. Blessings to you and your family.

Yes, you should refer her to the grieving section of this site. I am 33 and lost my mom, best friend and confidante...and I too have a little one to take care of on top of it. Blessings to her and you both.

I too have not posted in a long time...though I still read often. I don't post as often, because I have focused my energy now on dealing with my grief...when I feel healthy again then I will post more, because I would have more to offer. Second, I have never felt more vulnerable in my life then after losing my beloved mother. I notice that some posts here are quick to "attack" others when feelings are hurt or words are misconstrued. I know emotions run high, but the last thing I would need is someone attacking me when they dislike something I said. I don't need to focus my energy on soothing someone else when I am in the gutter. It saddens me, because it seems to be more of a common place now then when I joined almost 2 years ago. This site sustained me at the worst point in my life and I know it does that for others. It was invaluable and I have met so many loving people. I will be forever grateful for this site.

Prayers for your dear son.

I'm am so sorry, Andrea. I hate this disease! Blessings to his family and yours.

Happy Holidays! Don and Lucie, wishing you health and happiness. All my best. Andrea B.

What a beautiful and loving tribute to your father. He is proud of you. My heart goes out to you during this difficult time.

Absolutely beautiful! Thank you for sharing.

What a wonderful dream and so glad it brought you some peace. I had a dream that too brought me some peace. I know your pain so much and am here for you. Hugs to you.

Oh Shelly, I miss those phones so badly myself. Hugs to you.

What wonderful news. Blessings to you both and to continued good news.

My mom suffered from delirium many many months prior to her passing...it was due to the pain medication. But near the end she was extremely confused and delirious, the cancer spread to her liver. A big sign of the liver function shutting down is encephalopathy (where the immonia from the liver builds in the system and travels to the brain causing confusion). I hope this helps and please remember it could be the pain medication or any combination of medications.

Dearest Carleen, ((((Hugs)))) I am so sorry to hear about Keith's pain and the roller coaster ride you both are enduring. Please know you are always in my thoughts and even more so as I wish for good results on the upcoming biopsy. I wish I could take away your pain and fear. Please PM if you need to talk. Blessings, Andrea B.

Dear Amy, I felt your pain when I read your post. I remember feeling so much of what you are going through during my mom's illness. In fact, if you look back in this forum about 6 months you will probably find a similiar post from me. In a way, the day she was diagnosed our roles begun to change. I was very active in helping her fight the disease and helping my dad care for her. As her disease progressed I watched it take away my mom. We would have moments when it seemed like she was present, but through her pain and the medication the life was mostly gone. I have more to say, but actually it is really painful for me. Please PM if you need to chat. This is such a hard road, please know aren't alone in your feelings. Blessings to you, Andrea B.

Dearest Shelly, First off, big hug sent your way. Second, I am asking my mom to pull a few strings for you and help with good results from your biopsy. You have all my positive thoughts going your way. Blessings to you. Andrea B.

Dear Joan, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved mother. I lost my mom, who was my best friend and confidante, 3 months ago. Somedays it feels like the pain will never subside and I am not sure how to go on and then other days I actually find a little joy in life again. I believe that we follow our own paths of grief and no one can tell you what is right or wrong. Therapy has been a tremendous help for me. I feel it is a place that I can say whatever I want and never be judged (as long as you find the right therapist)...it is such a relief to have that outlet. Please know you aren't alone...even though grief is one of the loneliest ventures in life. We are all unfortunately in the same boat and we can all help each other. Blessings to you in the days ahead, Andrea B.

Happy Birthday Dear Sweet Katie!

Here Here Fay! Whoever sends hate mail needs to be on their way! THANK YOU Katie and Rick for all you do!!!!!! This site was my lifesaver during my mom's battle. When Katie and Rick lost Jessee they continuously supported all of us through this website. I myself find it truly admirable of them to do this. I admit I don't think I would have had the strength after losing my mom. And then for someone to have the audacity to send hate mail is appalling, to say the least. THANK YOU Katie and Rick from the bottom of my heart for all your work. You are loved and appreciated by so many.

Hi Sara, Sorry to hear about your dad. Have him get the swelling checked out right away. Sometimes chemo can cause edema (swelling) of the extremities, but it sounds like your dad hasn't been on chemo for awhile. Another cause may be a blood clot in his legs. Blood clots are very common with lung cancer, but need to be treated right away before they break off. Blood clots cause legs and hands to swell and be tender to the touch. They are usually treated with blood thinners. Hope this helps. All the best to you.

Dear Elaine, First I think you are so thoughtful for doing this!!!!!! Second, this is something that I talk over and over about...that I wish my mom would have left me a letter. I am 32 and my daughter is 2. I spend my time worrying about how she felt about dying. We never talked about it, because we all remained hopeful until the very end (I wouldn't change this for anything). But there did come the time that we realized the end would probably be near. I wish so dearly that my mom would have left me a letter or some other form of communication to tell me how she was doing and maybe give me some sort of reassurance. I think a great idea too is doing a video recording. Tell family members the vital points that you want them to know. Tell them your inner feelings. Tell them the advice you would want them to know, but also include how you feel. I would also have loved for my mom to have made something for my daughter. I think a video recording gives them a reminder of your voice as well as you yourself. My mom was always a positive, strong and loving influence in my life. I would love to have a letter or video that I could look at whenever I needed to feel her near. You are a loving and wonderful mom for thinking forward like this. Blessings to you.