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Sandy, I am truely sorry for your loss. May Jim rest in peace. Shirleyb

Teri, I wish you well in the days to come. I hope you are able to get a treatment plan in place that you are able to handle well. Much love and prayers, Shirleyb

Lillian, Take the time you need to make your decisions. I only wish you the best and that life gives you many warm sunny days and gentle breezes. Love, Shirleyb

Karen, I think of you and Faith often. I hope life will be gentle to you. You have had a hard couple of years. Take care. Shirleyb

Ann, I sent you an email, but just so you know. I hope you are aware that you are loved. I hope you had a day full of smiles from the good memories you made with Dennis. Next month would have been mine and Randy's 30th. Although I now have someone else in my life, I still have those memories of the special times Randy and I had in the time he was here. Nothing can take that away. Be good to yourself hon. Love, Shirley

Lisa, Isn't it good to know that there are people here who understand every word and emotion you have written about? I am glad to see you post. As for the situation you are in, you still have lots of choices open to you. I am proud you have honored your heart in the decision you have made in not staying where you felt so very uncomfortable. I know that in time you will find the place for you that will give you rewards for what you do so well. I am sorry the situation with your mother and sister is not what you had thought it would be. I don't have any words of advise on this as I have not been in your shoes. Maybe in time they will come to understand how much you need their love and support in changing your life. I hope your son will get the benefit of having them in his life. Sometimes we have to say it out loud what our needs are and what our dreams are for those closest to us, for them to understand how important they are to us and that we need their help. Good luck in your journey. It is so good to see you on here again. You have so much to offer in so many ways. Praying for you and your son that life gets easier. Shirleyb

Just my two cents on this. I think the idea is wonderful but I also realize what Connie is trying to say. In some respects, a grief support group would be helpful. What ties us all together though is the fact that we lost someone to lung cancer. But I also understand the limits of Rick's time which is so valuable, and I also understand the limitations of the server to support this. So I can see both sides of it. That is all. Praying for all of us as we each take our journeys through life. Shirleyb

Pat, I can remember feeling just as you do right now. All I can say is it takes time. Losing what feels like half your soul is not something you will get over in just a few moments. It takes time. You are in my thoughts and prayers that God will hold you close and give you comfort. Shirleyb

Lil, Life has not been easy for you to say the least. I am so sorry about another loss in your family. My heart goes out to the kids and grandkids. I know how mine were when their father and then their grandmother passed. They have lost those that taught them so much. It is hard for everyone. I can understand why your kids want you back "home". They need you now more than ever. But you also don't want to lose the independance you have gained in the last few years. I hope at some point you can find that happy medium for you. Going back "home" doesn't mean you have to lose what you have gained. You are not the same person you were when you left. Take that new found strength that you have and use it to your advantage in possibly building a better life for you and your children. But think about it and give yourself time to let your emotions calm down before making any decisions. Take care, you and your family are in my prayers , Shirleyb

Fay's passing will leave a hugh void for many of us. Her wisdom, her humor, and just her presence will be missed greatly. I pray she is at peace, without pain, and in the presence of God, who has welcomed another of His children home. Her joy in seeing those she loved and passed before her must be enormous. May we all have that joy someday. I am going to miss Fay. Praying for us all. Shirleyb

Rich, Glad to hear your ticker is still ticking. Take it easy will ya dude!!! I hope you are feeling better soon and able to get home even quicker. Take care, shirelyb

I am engaged to my high school sweetie. So it happens sometimes. I know it is not for everyone but it has worked out for me. I am happy..... and no....we have not set a date yet.

Well Ginny, I hope in two weeks time there will be no need for more drastic measures. But in the mean time you both will be in my prayers that all is well. Shirleyb

Karen, I am so sorry that everything is going the way it is. You and Ken are in my prayers. May the time you have together be good and give you more precious memories. Praying for us all. Shirleyb

Fay, Thank you for all you are and all you have contributed to this board. Your wisdom and faith have carried more than one of us on to continue to fight for what is right. May God be with you now and always. Much love and many prayers, Shirleyb

Mark, Losing Leslie is like losing half of you. She was so much a part of you. Every breath you take, every move you made, she was right there with you. She still is, but like you said, she is not at your side anymore. You can't call her and talk to her, you can't hear her laughter, you can't touch her. Leslie is in your heart and soul. Close your eyes and tune everything else out and you will see her. You will hear her because she is still with you in spirit. Time is all you have right now and no it is not moving fast enough. Take whatever time you need though to greive for your loss. Just remember we are here for you anytime you need us. Many of us are on the same path but at different points but we know only too well what you are going through and we will stand by you too as others have stood by us. May you feel Leslie with you always. Shirleyb

I am so glad for Fay. It is a blessing. Thank you again for keeping us updated.

Pam, I am so sorry that Joel has passed. We never want to see our loved ones suffer. May God hold you close and give you peace. May Joel's spirit visit you often. You and your family are in my prayers. Shirleyb

Connie, thank you for the updates on Fay. It is heartbreaking to know that she is suffering and not able to be home where she wants to be with her family. Fay has always been a very special and wonderful person with so much to share. Her insights are so profound and I feel have benefited many going through the journeys they are on. Give her my love. My prayers are for all of us. Shirleyb

Kim, Just an off hand idea but maybe getting him to write down all that he is feeling in a journal would help him to identify himself again. I know this is off the wall but maybe it would be a way that he could put into words what he is missing. I can understand where he is coming from. You were able to reach out and develope a support system and did not rely on him for your moral support. Maybe he is feeling like you don't need him emotionally anymore because you do have all these people who know you and what you were going through because of him. But who was his support? He had you and your family I am sure but you have this hugh circle of people to talk to and he doesn't. Maybe he is not one to talk to someone but maybe he could try to write to himself about what he wants. It might help if he were to write down on paper what his goals are now. He may need to find out he needs to dream again of the future and not just the next test. Once we lose our dreams, we tend to lose everything that is important. Kind of like Peter Pan. I hope things get better for him and for you. Prayers for all of us. Shirleyb

Peggy, It is good to see you post. I know too how hard it is to lose that one person you feel is half your soul. I am glad to see you are busy and it is good to know Mike is coming back home. I know for me it has helped to have the kids close to home. And to have the projects. Thanks for the update and for sticking around. Shirleyb

Karen, I am so sorry for your loss. Words cannot express how sad this is. May you remember your mom with joyful memories. Shirleyb

Larry, I am so sorry. May her soul rest in peace. Shirleyb

Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. Love to you all. Shirley

Holly, I am in agreement with Don on this. He said it best I think. I know that your going back home will be another change that is not always easy but it is the thing to do. Your father will survive. It may not be easy but he will survive. If he is able to travel then maybe he should come to visit with you. But the bottom line is life will go on. He will survive just as you will. Adjusting to life without your mother will be difficult for both of you but your husband needs you too. And the longer you are away from him, the more he will miss of his child growing up so quickly. Pray that God guides you in the right thing to do and the right time. Much love, Shirley