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Enjoy your day to the limit and your mother will also enjoy it, she wanted you to have it and it is a present from her, so make the most of it and your mother will be refreshed by all the love present. Do not let cancer rob you of happiness, take all you can everyway you can and as often as you can. Happy day. Hugs J.C.

Beth, Your husband is robbing himself of love and real friendship that are much needed in time of sickness. He may do what he wants, but he can't force you to stay silent. Do not let him rob you of what you need the most at this time, love, family and help, so speak openly about yourself and the way you feel and just keep the line of communication open if he change his mind. It is his sickness, if he wants to fight alone let him be, that road is very lonely when one fight alone, but it is also your life and your need is to communicate and get as much understanding and help as you can. Good luck and prayers going. Hugs J.C.

Now that I dream of Mike with me, the chimes stopped, when he was bedridden I had chimes for him to ring day or night if I was not in the room with him and he needed me. After he died I put them away in a cupboard and when I had visitors they would ring ??????? nobody could explain why no batteries in........and they still rang. Now, no more chimes only the dreams, I like the dreams better. J.C.

Boy do I have some dillies, I have so many that it would take me weeks for writing them down, People that call you and ask you ''What are you doing?'' and when you tell them ''I'm answering the phone'' tell you '' Will call you back, you are busy''. Professionals that make mistakes and when you point it out to them correct the mistake and send you a bill for the correction. Adults with children that cross the street on a red light. Enough I am already getting *MAD* J.C.

They keep popping in my mind all the time. J.C.

KC, If your father do not want to take medication for pain, would he accept patches, there are some with morphine, different strength and they help a lot. Aredia is in the same line as Zometa, but both help for the bones. A tough marine will fight with all he can, he needs the love and support of his family near him and he has it with all of you. Some relief from the bone pain will boost his morale and yours, keep trying to get it for him. Hugs and prayers going. J.C.

From all of us. Hugs J.C.

Shelly, Your feelings are normal, do not blame yourself, your are only venting, you are tired and even with the help you get, you still have too much to do. The sickness makes your father grouchy, and he may be scare and that reflect on the way he talks to you. Do not mind his remarks, they are not ment for you but for the sickness he has. Take care of yourself it is a hard road for all of you. Prayers for better days. Hugs J.C.

Soccremom, Good the fastest you know the better it is and the waiting game for the results is shorter. Good vibes and prayers going. J.C.

For all those with 1st anniversary, MANY RETURNS. Ginny: Happy Birthday to husband on his 62nd, nice meal, he is not on the diet, is he ?. Hugs J.C.

Old trick to repair CD's that are scratched. Look where the scratch is and put some peanut butter (smooth one, please) on the scratch and leave a few minutes, wipe (no sand paper allowed) and try again to play it. It works for me. J.C.

Done, J.C.

Becky, One day of the diet wont hurt......will it? Everybody should be allowed a free day on a special occasion. Congratulations on the anniversary, many more coming. Hugs J.C.

Tiny, That is marvelous, good news always are. Have a good trip. And celebrate !!!!!!!!! J.C.

Carmen, Prayers there already Hugs J.C.

Angie, It is always different for each person that face a report of LC, and for the familt around. Your father is at the phase: no treatment, just comfort, but he may change his mind. Just follow his decision and let him know you are there for him. On my list of prayers. J.C.

Sandy, Have the biopsy and hibernate after, till the GOOD results. On my list of prayers. Hugs J.C.

Lily, Shitley, Ann, Words seem to come easy for you, for me it is a fight each time I write, I am afraid to hurt people feelings because my age nearly puts me out of context. Each day is a fight now that I am alone, I was also jealous when I saw couple together, till one day in the mall where there was a special exhibition for Xmas gifts, I saw many couples having arguments about what to get or not get. I never had those arguments with Mike, and it made me realized that it was better for me to be alone than have to fight each day with a person you are not compatible with. Life for us is too precious to lose half of it in arguments. So jealousy was put aside. Now I am jealous of people that are alone and have to use wheel chairs to get around. It remind me of the many time I was out with Mike, him in the wheelchair, sometimes with the oxygen, others without and me proudly pushing him and both of us having as good a time as we could get. We were a couple and got along so well, now I am alone and those I see are alone also, but I am asking, Why? did he have to go when we were still enjoying life as a couple ? I think that as long as we look around us we will find something that will rub us the wrong way, scenery, people........... For Misty, Lily, pour your heart out to her, just like John must have for many years, she will return the love and affection you give her by the hundredfold, I am sure that John would smile on both of you from where he is. Sorry for my way of writing the heart is there but the words are hard for me to find. Hugs to all J.C.

Welcome home, David Glad you feel better. Will watch for your posts. Hugs J.C.

Anne, Hello and welcome, glad to meet you, sorry you are here. But best place to be. I have to ask, what is your specialty as far as food is concerned ??? just in case..TBone started it and the rest followed, so now we want a full menu. Hugs J.C.

Natalie, My deepest condolences I will pray for peace for you and your father. J.C.

Bob, Enjoy the fishing trip and the double frying, you and the fish. J.C.

Nancy, Very good news, Beautiful to be NORMAL. Still on my list of prayers. Hugs J.C.

David, You just hit me on the head, I was listening to C-Ds my husband collected when he was sick, all TRUMPET. Bill Chase and Maurice Andre were some of his favorites. We both went on a rampage for music when we both got cancer so the place is full, I am just lucky that the place is sound proof as the music is on from early morning, and I fall asleep with it. I have a choice for all kind of moods and it does help. J.C.

Debaroo You did not offend me, you just made me remember all the times I used to take my mother to all the wakes she had to go as she survived most of her big family and most of her friends. She always wanted to go with me after my father died, because I always found time for laughter even in the most stressful situations. When she went in 1974, she was 88+ years old. And at the funeral parlor on the last day of the wake, we all left and I was with some friends and my husband on the steps outside and I was not moving, just talking with those left with me. My husband ask me '' What are you waiting for?'' I just answered '' Mom, you know how she always have to have the last word.'' We all realized that she was actually coming with us, and to this day she is with me always. We may leave their body, but we keep their spirit with us always. Hugs J.C.