Peg, I know your pain all too well. My Bill has been gone just a little over two months. Last week I celebrated my 50th birthday without him. I was so frightened to face that alone and then when the day actually came I surprised myself. I cannot give you a formula for this. I am learning myself, but I do know that my faith is still helping me. I trust that this really is part of some wonderful plan that I just do not understand yet and I try to have hope still even though my life has been devasted. I have to truly take it one day at a time or I will lose it. Try my trick that I use when I miss him really bad. Close you eyes and get a vivid picture of him in your mind. Now take a very slow breath in through your nose and try to remember his scent. Keep your eyes closed and when you exhale envision his arms around you. You will realize that he is there with you. He is next to you always and he wants you to feel his presence. I feel Bill around me everyday. I take tremendous comfort in that feeling. I would do anything to have Bill back even for just an hour or a minute but I know that is not possible. I try to switch my sadness around and remember with joy the happiness he brought me.
Please pm me if you like. I will pray for your pain to lessen. Maybe you should see your doctor about medication to help you function better. Just a thought.
Colleen