Wow JD you're not "lost in the woods" - you're in a total nightmare with that doctor. Steve's brain mets were not treated first, although his onc. said that brain mets usually are treated first, but his systemic was too critical. So he had chemo (see profile) first and as soon as it was ended, was referred for WBR. We opted to look into Gamma Knife and the tumor committee wanted a triple dose MRI. In the ensuing month, all 4 of Steve's brain mets disappeared, so Gamma Knife was not scheduled. His onc. wanted WBR anyway - not only did he have no symptoms, at that time he had no identifiable tumors. We refused. However, a little more than a month later, he had 15 lesions on the brain. We rushed into WBR. Obviously, doing nothing is risky business. Good luck.