Kel M Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Hello everyone, Times have been tough for a lot of people on this board lately, and I just wanted to take the time to check in and say hello. Please forgive the rambling post. As you might recall from my last post, my Mom had to be flown back to Canada from Florida due to being in great pain. It now appears that there has been progression of the cancer in her lung (or lungs) and possibly into her bones. She is also suffering from a fairly rare complication known as paraneoplastic syndrome (brain degeneration) for which there is no effective treatment. Basically, the body generated antibodies to fight the cancer cells and in her case, they attacked her good cells too. It's a condition that can result in tremors, balance problems, dizziness, memory loss, confusion, etc... The narcotics they were giving her didn't seem to help the bone pain and so there were many upsetting moments for Mom and for us as we were watching her suffer. During one particularly difficult moment, with her face twisted in pain, eyes shut and tears running down her face, Mom reached over to me and said: "Let them get the pain under control and I'll be ready to fight again." She took my breath away with those words and showed me the meaning of courage in the face of great adversity. To make a long story short, they finally managed to control most of the pain this week and she was to have a scan to rule in or out bone involvement today. Last night, as Mom was standing up (probably to get in and out of her wheelchair), she lost her balance and fell over injuring herself. So on top of the disease and side effects including a blood clot in the lung, she may now have a broken hip. She's been heavily sedated since the fall, but was alert enough to answer my phone call and tell me she loved me this morning. I'm as scared as I've ever been today. I pray that Mom doesn't have a broken hip and that she can bounce back from this setback like she has so many times before. I pray that she doesn't suffer anymore - that she is comfortable. I pray for a miracle - if that is what God has planned for us. I pray for all of you - for as much as our experiences are our own - unique if you will - we are all bound by this beast we call cancer. Kel "Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace." - Amelia Earhart Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Oh your poor mom...she is really having a hard time. I am sorry to hear this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shelliemacs Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Kel, I can not express how vividly I understand your deep fear and pain for and over your wonderful mom. I have been there and pray for her miracle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SDianneB Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 I just hope they can keep her pain under control. Going through all this is one thing -- having too much pain with it is quite another. Thanks for the update. We'll be thinking of you all. Di Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remembering Dave Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Kel, Somehow I missed the part about your Mom having to fly back to Canada. I'm so sorry she's going through this ALL AT ONCE. I don't know what else to say, except know that everyone here loves you and your Mom and really cares about you. God Bless, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Kel, my prayers are with you and family. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MilliBr1 Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Kel, praying for both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Kel.I too am praying that your mom will mend and feel well again very soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy RN Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))) You have my prayers. Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 So sorry your having to watch the one person who has meant so much to you your whole life suffer. I know as i'm sure you more than know that every day she has that is what i now call our good day's is like a little miracle..Like the Saint Padre Pio said so often....PRAY HOPE AND DO NOT WORRY.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Like Cathy R said: Our hearts are one. We are praying, Kel. Love Brian and Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Well crud...this is a long way from the pars and birdies I hoped she'd be getting in FL. Please extend my very best to your mom, Kel. I hope her hip heals quickly and hope it's not a bad break if it's a break. She has enough to contend with. I hope her pain is soon under control too. But she's strong....she's been a great fighter and there are all those golf holes yet to play, eh? You tell her I played four holes last week. That's all I could manage for the first outing...but I had a par on the Par 5 hole!! I look forward to the time when your mom can tell me about being back out on the course. I'm counting on it for her...vibing her my best thoughts and wishes.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbays Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 God bless your mom. She sounds so strong and couragous. I'm praying for relief from the pain and the strentgh to fight this beast called cancer. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Kel, Your poor brave Mother. First I hope that she gets pain free. Second I hope the hip is a big bad bruise. Third, I hope she gets her dander up and goes back in the ring to continue her fight. Hang tough Kel, your Mother needs you strong right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kel M Posted April 26, 2005 Author Share Posted April 26, 2005 Thanks for all your kind thoughts - Mom's right hip is fractured and she will be in surgery tomorrow morning. Please keep her in your prayers. We appreciate your continued support. Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail p-m Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Kel What a terrible time your Mom and you have had. I hope they can keep your mom's pain under control. Many prayers to your mom and you. Gail p-m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
finster Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Kel, I hope your mom's surgery goes well and she is on the mend soon. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendy Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Boy your mom sure is a trooper isn't she! I hope that the surgery goes well and that things will start improving for her. Wendy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kel M Posted April 28, 2005 Author Share Posted April 28, 2005 Hi all, Mom made it through her surgery pretty well - she spent the night in intensive care being monitored closely to make sure that her vitals stayed stable. She should be tranferred to a regular floor today. We continue to be hopeful for the best and thank you for your kind thoughts and prayers. Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Kel- I'm sorry to read about your mom's setbacks. You certainly are a wonderful person, and daughter! You and your mom are lucky to have one another. Sending lots of prayers your way. Nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 My continued best to your mom. So glad the surgery is over...and knowing her, she'll heal quickly and well and be grabbing her spf 20 and headed back out to the course soon! At least, that is my wish for her. Please do pass along my good wishes to her, Kel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remembering Dave Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Kel, I want to wish your mom well and speedy healing. I went back and read your top post, and you know, the part about the bone pain really struck home. Dave has it, too, and he says there's nothing like it. I really hope she heals fast and continues the fight. she is a strong woman and I admire her. by the way, is the photo of her or of you? God Bless you and your mom, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kel M Posted April 28, 2005 Author Share Posted April 28, 2005 Hi again, Just wanted to let you know that Mom stood up and walked today - less than 24 hours after having a partial hip replacement (new portion of the femur). Whether doctor, nurse or family member - we were all amazed!!! She is on the mend, feeling relatively good and in amazing spirits (and I mean amazing - good-naturedly teasing the hospital staff all day). Perhaps God did answer my weekend request (prior to the fracture) for a miracle after all. Pic is of me in St. Maarten last summer. Have got a great pic of me and Mom to add eventually. Love to all! Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Kel, Prayers for your mom were said from the start, was unable to post for a few days. Will keep sending prayers till we get the all clear from you. Hugs J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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