Remembering Dave Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Yep, 13 years tomorrow Dave and I got married. I'll never forget that it was in the '60's and sunny so it was nice. Tomorrow is supposed to be a high of 38 with up to three inches of rain sleet and snow. that sounds appropriate. I'm really not too upset about this, I mean, why miss Dave more tomorrow, I miss him a whole lot every day, but there is not a damn thing I can do about it. And the more emotional I get, the more insecure Faith gets, so I can't do that to her. So no indulging in a pity party for me! Our anniversary seemed to always be a bomb anyway. I took Dave to the ER on our 10th anniversary where he was first diagnosed with SCLC. It's probably even harder I suppose doing this without my mom. if she were still here, even if she was as sick as she was at the end, I know she'd send me a cheerful card in the mail telling me she was thinking about me on this day. She became an almost obsessive card sender in her last years which is pretty cool. She sure did leave a legacy of kindness . . . Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronbear Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 ((((Karen)))), Just wanted you to know that I will be thinking about you tomorrow - I know it will be a hard day for you, even though most of them are hard anyways. Try to do something special for yourself - something that will bring back some happy memories of your years together. The pain of loss is so strong, but so are our happy memories. No one can take those away from you!! Take care!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Saying Extra Prayers Tonite For you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Karen, Thinking of you and Faith. I wish I had a magic wand to heal your pain. What you have gone through is just unimaginable. You are one tough cookie and I admire you adn your strength! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Karen, Keeping you in my thoughts tomorrow and hoping the day passes softly for you and Faith.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tnmynatt Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Karen, Praying for you and Faith. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea B. Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Dear Karen, I want you to know you and Faith are in my thoughts. I remember how my mom could make me feel better too with a simple card. Hugs to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palves Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Karen I think of you and Faith often. Here is a wish for a peaceful day, one of reflection and good memories. I hope you can feel Dave's warmth through your memories envelope you today. Paula Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 (((((((((((Karen & Faith))))))))))))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Hi Karen, Thinking about you today. (((((KAREN))))) Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Karen, Just know I am thinking about you on this March 21st... Love, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Dear Karen, I hope you got through today ok. I know you said it wasn't any different than missing him every other day, but I'm not so sure I believe you. If I were a betting person, I'm thinking today was a hard one for you, or you wouldn't even have come here and told us about it. I KNOW that our anniversary will be the hardest day for me every year. I understand the cover up for Faith's sake. I do the same thing with my son and he's a great big grown up. In fact, it wasn't until Don died and I experienced this loss for myself that I ever even thought how much my dad must have been hurting after my mom died - he hid it from us kids. I always just assumed he was doing ok. Now that I'm hiding it from my son, I feel really bad knowing how my dad must have felt. I often wish that I would have talked to him about it more than I did. I just didn't know! We just do what we have to do for our kids, don't we? I miss seeing you here, Karen. I hope you are well, enjoying your new home and getting through each day with some happy times. Much love to you, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karen335 Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen, Just seeing you post is special. Miss seeing David and Faith's pictures. Miss you very much. You and Faith need to have a quiet and peaceful dinner together. Exchange a rose and just tell each other how much you mean and love one another... Share the hugs and just say, this is our special day. Please, come here often and let us know how you both are doing... Have a good day!!! Prayers and hugs, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bethluvswill13 Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen,how terribly sorry I am to read your post. Im going to pray for your peace as tomorrow creeps. I can't imagine a spouse's passing. I recently lost my dad and its a constant daily struggle. I'll be praying for you and your family and may only fond memories carry you through. Hugs,Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy RN Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 (((((((((((((KAREN)))))))))))))))))))) I saw your post on one I had done in sclc (Thank you-it was so nice of you). I have missed you. I so miss Dave. I know you and Faith miss him desperately. You mean so much to many of us. I hate the ann. dates. You keep in touch when you feel like it. Love and kisses-Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirleyb Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Karen, I think of you and Faith often. I hope life will be gentle to you. You have had a hard couple of years. Take care. Shirleyb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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