Kim, this must be so hear for you to deal with. I know that it is very hard for people to give up their driving. In a way, I think they must see it as losing their last real independence. Unfortunately, I think you will have to be the "bad guy" on this issue. If your mother was involved in an accident and harmed either herself or someone else, you would have a hard time forgiving yourself. I really liked the approach thet Deb used with Alan, by saying sn accident could cause them to lose everything if his medical records were examined. Maybe you could try that approach. Or maybe you could just tell her that although you and the children love her company, you can't go out with the unless she allows you to drive. I think this is going to be tough for you but I know you can do it! I'm sending lots of good vibes in your direction!