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Hi Bobbi. I'm not a patient but I agree with what the others have said. It sounds as though things are going well and she is receiving the standard, proven treatment plan. Don't destroy her optimism unless you really feel things aren't been done right. Welcome here. It's a great place. Dee

I can't help you with the drug I'm afraid. If it's new in the US then we won't be testing it on mice until about 2050 I'm sorry to hear your Mum's bad news but it sounds as though as she's regained her spark and is ready to fight on which can only be a good thing. I like the sound of her doc too. Dee.

Yay - it's great news. Your situation is so encouraging to those with small cell. Any chance you could do a bio to add to your signature? Dee.

Oh Nancy, I am so sorry. Dee

There was a whole thread on this topic a couple of months back. I can't remember what it was called but it was along the lines of "what made you go to the doctor". There were loads of responses to it. Maybe you could do a search for it. Dee

I always read your posts Becky. I like a person who tells it like it is.... Congrats, Dee.

I don't have the wisdom of Falls54 or JC. I delayed responding to you post because I was so upset for you and didn't know what to say.In the interim, others have come up with great points and Don's doing better. Thinking of you both, Dee

Thinking of you both, hope all goes well. Dee

I don't feel confident enough in my knowledge to attempt to answer your questions but I just wanted to welcome you. Dee

Welcome Becky. Your surgeon sounds like quite a guy! Dee

I am so very sorry. Dee

Karen, I wish I had got to know Dave and I just wanted to echo Ann on the beautifully written obituary. I am so very sorry. Dee.

ROFLOL Dee

Claire did not lose her hair. I know she had Carboplatin but I don't know what else she had. I don't know about pain in the lung, sorry. Dee

They are going to be new people looking at this posts whose lives you've just altered. Five years - fantastic Dee.

This is a very, very difficult subject and you are not going to find the answer in any of these posts. I stopped smoking at the same time as my friend - she got lung cancer and I didn't. She started smoking again, I didn't. Others have addressed you already on the lottery of lung cancer, lung cancer patients who have never smoked etc. All of that is right but your Mum does smoke and that is the entire point of your post. It's clear you've never smoked. You seem to be angry not because your Mum got a horrible disease and it wasn't fair but because she did it to herself. Maybe she did, maybe she didn't but whatever caused it I doubt she's a truly evil person and therefore she does not deserve it. Do you know what I mean by the "it won't happen to me" syndrome? As a smoker one does appreciate the risks on an intellectual level but do you honestly believe that any smoker here thought they'd actually get lung cancer when they were smoking that cigarette? Have you ever driven your car too fast? You're sure that risk's Ok because you'll never knock someone over will you - it's not going to happen to you, is it? If you did would you expect your Mum's support or would you expect her to have so much anger that you remained unforgiven till the day you die? It may not seem like it but I do sympathise with you. I don't mean to patronise you but you are very young and you are going to have to deal with this quickly. I could go on for ages but that won't help. Your Mum is most likely going to die. Are you going to be loving and supportive (your Dad could probably do without this) or are you going to make this more unbearable than it already is? You have no control over your Mum's destiny but you do over yours. You've judged your Mum as weak but you've shown that you are too. Let go of this or you'll spend the rest of your life regretting it and there will be ramifications you haven't even contemplated yet. I really do wish you the very best of luck. Dee

To all of David's family, I am so sorry very very sorry to hear this. My sincerest condolences. Dee

Great news and a doc that talks sense! Dee.

Bill, I'm really happy for you. Congrats Dee

I'm glad you're back. Dee.

Larry, I'm sorry to hear this but Ann is right - Claire was always told that eating is very important. I'm glad that you don't have to worry about insurance on top of everything else. Dee.

Thinking of you and hoping that your hubby's back with you soon. Dee.

I was just typing a response to Don when Claire phoned. Yep, she's still NED. Anybody know why I'm bawling my eyes out like a baby? The doc doesn't want to see her now till October which is 4 months away. Do you think this is right 'cause it seems a bit far off to me? Signing off as one hugely relieved Dee. PS Cindi are you around and are you OK?

This is fabulous news. Cindi will have to open that bar up big style 'cause I'm just about to post here too! Where is Cindi? I haven't seen her for a while. Many congratulations to you and Lucie. Dee

I am so very very sorry for your loss. Dee.