daddyslittlegirl

thanks to everyone for the replies and support. My dad is schedule to begin WBR tomorrow. I'm so afraid. I don't understand why this is necessary. He only has 2 small lesions. Why WBR? I really wish my mom would push for a second opinion. I told her to ask the doctor about gammaknife. I'm just not sure this is the right thing. Perhaps the radiolgy center doesn't have the capability to do gammaknife so they don't suggest it???? As always, everything is happening so fast (which may be a good thing) so no time for second opinions. I pray it all works out.

Congratulations!!! It's obvious that you have such a positive attitude. That's the key. Keep it up!!

I'm so sorry for what you and your husband are going through. I often wonder what my dad is thinking (since he doesn't tell us). I pray for their strength. I feel so helpless. All we can do is love them and bring them as much happiness as we can for as long as we can. You are a great wife! Take care of yourself and try to hang in there. Sending prayers.

Well, I just sent my post and now I read yours. It looks like we are in similar boats. I just got the call tonight also from my mom telling me my dad has 2 small lesions on his brain. I totally understand how you feel about not being able to move. Let's just pray together that our dad's have success with the radiation. Hang in there!

I don't understand why we can't seem to get ANY good news. First the biopsy to confirm lung cancer, then I learn of the effusion. Now, my dad just went for a cat scan today and was told he has 2 small lesions on the brain. He's to begin radiation for that this week. They say it will get them. I pray so. I can't take much more. I keep praying and praying, but we just keep getting more and more bad news. My dad HATES going to the doctors and stuff. Now, he has just finished the radiation on his chest and he has to begin it on the brain. I'm hurtung so badly for him. I can't stand watching him go through this. I just want it all to go away! thank you for any comfort you can offer.

I'm praying everything is okay with your sister. I don't understand why families behave they way the do sometimes. I have heard to same thing from my mom, "I'm not going to tell you anything else if this how upset you are going to get." I don't know what they expect from us. I think it speaks of how deeply we care. Hang in ther and try to stay positive. God Bless!

I'm so sorry for everything you and your family are going through. I pray that you all of you are able to get your lives back real soon. Hang in there.

That's awesome!

Thank you. That is actually how I feel. I already made up my mind that Disney World is out of the question. Fortunately my kids are young and we have many years for them to enjoy it. I would LOVE to go on a trip with my daddy, but he just isn't much of a traveler. In August we took him and my mom to Atlantic City and I was planning on doing it again this year until we found out about this. I just want to spend as much time with him as possible. He lives about 40 minutes from me and I still go up 2-3 times per week. I want so badly to revert to being a little girl again and move in with him. But I have other my husband and children to take care of. And I want to do my best to bring them as much happiness as my daddy has always brought me. I know that is what he wants. Thank you again for listening and the advice. God Bless you all!

Thank you. We can never say too many prayers. God Bless!

Thank you all for your advice. I will take it to heart. I truely don't feel I'm slefish not to want my dad to suffer from this horrible disease. My mom told me that I'm fortunate becaue her mom went quickly and she didn't have time to say goodbye. Fortunate??? I don't consider myself fortunate to watch my dad suffer. My sister said she's glad that she has gotten this time so she can let my dad know how she feels about him. I don't need this time for that reason. I live EVERY day of my life letting him know how important he is to me. To me that is selfish. I want my dad here for as long he can, but I don't want him suffering. That's why I want him to try what ever is possible to avoid that. I hope that makes sense. Even though my dad is doing pretty well right now, I fear for what the future holds. Please pray for him. Thank you and God Bless!

I'm having difficulties with a few things. I'm the youngest of 4 kids and I'm trying to get my family together to push for a second opinion. We have always joined together to get my dad to do what is nnecessary. However, my mother and older sister feel that my dad is getting the best possible care so they won't support it. My sister and I had it out. She told me that "I need to get a grip." I frequently email them articles that I find hopefull, etc. She amade the comment that she isn't on the computer as much as me (in a sarcastic way). By the end of the conversation she made me feel bad for desperately looking for any kind of help I can come up with and for trying to get my family to work together to help my dad. I finally told her and my mother if we can't all work together (and not against each other) like a family should in a crisis, then this family isn't any good to me. My brother is pretty supportive, but my other sister is oblivious. Not only am I the baby, I'm also the closest to my dad. I've never handled anything that he has gone through well. My dad knows how difficult this is for me and he just says he's not going anywhere and not to worry about him. I just remind him how important he is to me and make him promise not to give up. So then my other issue is my mom is constently reminding me of my dad's "expiration date" (August / September). My dad is such a strong man and you really wouldn't even know he is sick. I have 2 small children and my daughter has been wanting to go to Disney World. Even though I refuse to live on a time clock, I don't want to go that far away from my dad or be gone that long. I try to spend as much time with my dad as possible (as I always have). However, I don't want to disappoint my kids either. So I compromised with a short trip to the beach in the near future. I know all I will do is think about my dad and I'm not going to be able to enjoy it. But I know my dad would be upset if I didn't do things with my kids. I do want things to be as normal for my dad as possible. What should I do? I know this a lot, but I just don't feel I can talk to my family anymore because we just fight (and that is NOT good for my dad). Thank you for listening and giving your opinion. God Bless!

You must be so proud! God Bless!

That is wonderful!! Thank you so much for the positive thougths and encouragement. Stay well. God Bless!

Missy, I'm so sorry for the way you are feeling. I know it is a very difficult time. I pray that you are able to find some of the peace your mom has. Hang in there. God Bless.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know how hard it is to see are parents, that we're use to taking care of us, get weak. I'm sending many prayers for you and your mom.

Hi Lilly, I can't really add much since it's my dad who has the disease, but I just wanted to say you are in my thoughts and prayers. I pray you DO survive long. So go ahead and get those curtains and do something for yourself. You deserve it!

Saying prayers that the results are good and your worries have been for nothing. Hang in there!

That's great news! It's the power of prayer. Hope they have a great trip, they so deserve it! God Bless!

happy, happy, happy anniversary!! Heres to many more.

congratulations! Hope you continue to "fly" high.

I'm so sorry you and your mom are going through this. I will be praying for rapid improvement.

Hello and welcome. Thank you so much for sharing such a nice story. It's wonderful to hear how well your mom is doing. I pray she continues to feel good. God Bless!

congratulations on both accounts.

WOW! What a wonderful story. Thank you so much for sharing and welcome to the sight. I'm so glad you joined, it's people like you that help to give others the hope we need. God Bless!