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This is truly a miracle for you. I am so happy you changed your plans. Cyndy

You know what? I am so happy to see this news. Sometimes I wonder if that first chemo my hubbie had made him so ill he couldn't fight it later on. He was a twelve month survivor who lived his life fully one day at a time. One of his quotes was: "one never knows, do one!" I'm routing for you all the way. Cyndy

Our Priest used this article when describing my Tim at his wonderful funeral tribute. My Tim was truly "A Gentleman"! http://www.victorianweb.org/vn/victor10.html Love you Timmy… Your Patut

It is Christmas eve and I am going to sleep at my daughter's house tonight so I can see the little one's reaction to their Santa visit. I am at peace knowing that Tim is also at peace. His funeral was just as I planned and the Priest likened him to some characteristics of Cardinal Newman - a wonderful tribute. His wake was to be from 2:00 to 4:00 but the line never stopped until 5:30. The same thing happened at night - people were waiting in the street to get in. I was overwhelmed at the number of people he had affected - both youth and Sr. Citizens. I wish every one a Merry Christmas. There is a beautiful Christmas snow falling here in the Adirondacks. Tim would love it. Much love, Cyndy

Anais, My husband died the 19th and we had a beautiful funeral for him yesterday. I wish you only the best in these difficult times. Love, Cyndy

Cathy, My husband died on the 19th and we had his funeral just yesterday. Tim was also home for 1 1/2 days and went very peacefully. I guess we can be thankful for that. I am doing fine with the help of my kids and grandkids. I hope that you are able to make it through the holidays as I am. Bests wishes to you. Love, Cyndy

Wow…what a neat post! I am so happy to read this and wish you an excellent holiday! Cyndy

and…don't forget Mele Kalikimaka ! Love, Cyndy

Sorry to report that Tim went to heaven at 8:15 a.m. Sunday 12/19. He was home under hospice care for only 1 1/2 days, had two peaceful nights and we were all around him when he took his last breath. I am so proud of him, he was a real trooper, was in no pain with his morphine patch on, and had all his faculties right until he went to sleep. All his kids and 8 of his grandchildren got to say goodbye. It was very easy for him, we weren't even sure he had left us. I heard it said that if a person is satisfied with his life accomplishments, it is easier to let go. It's incredible how many people he has affected, being a teacher, coach, community contributor, etc. I'm doing o.k. with the support of our 5 kids. We are going through the wonderful memories now and getting ready to give him one heck of a funeral. This is the first time I've been alone - they all went shopping to buy new clothes for the funeral. I am very peaceful and can feel him all around me. I'll come back to the board when all this is over. Love you all for all the support you have given me. Thank you! Cyndy Hennessy Wife of Timothy Patrick Hennessy - an "almost" Irishman (just teasin' Tim!)

It's been a whirlwind few days. Tim tried three different pain killers and ended up so ill (pain and vomiting) we took him to the emergency room. Turned out an xray showed a kind of obstruction in bowl again so he was admitted. The cancer is now in liver and I guess the intestine, thus the pain. He's coming home tomorrow and hospice has been invited in. This is so difficult to comprehend. He is being a real trooper and will be glad to come home. All our kids will be home a couple days after Christmas. I just don't know what to expect and can't believe our lives have taken such a turn. He's coming home not to die, but rather to live the rest of his life. Trying to be brave, Cyndy

Tim had a terrible few days when he was on morphine sulphate plus the senna. He basically stopped eating because his tummy was so crampy (I guess from the Senna laxative) and then he started feeling faint when he got up to walk somewhere (he thinks from not having food). It's been a frightning few days around here, and to top it off, his onc is so depressing. Tim's increased liver involvement is why she is concerned, and she wants him to be pain-free. She talked to me today about taking off from work and spending as much quality time as I can with him. Does that sound like a big hint at something? His Alitma treatment is on hold (I say). His onc thinks he's going to be too weak to tolerate it and strongly suggested I cancel the order. I reluctantly did, but plan to ask for it again if he can get stronger. Well, he's starting a new pain pill tonight and I sure hope he doesn't react to it like he did the morphine sulphate. It's called Roxicet. Wish us luck!

Heather, I too am very sorry for your loss. May the beautiful memories you have help you through this difficult time. Much love, Cyndy

Our onc gave hubbie Senna for a laxative and DOK stool softner to go along with his time release morphine. He's tried it twice and both times had severe stomach ache followed by vomiting. My question is, could the Senna be too rough on him? Is there a different laxative that is prescribed instead. Of course it's the weekend and we can't get hold of our onc. He also has a rash on his neck and back. Thanks for any advice.

Your post makes me very happy. Have an excellent holiday season! Cyndy

Well, we feel better now. Tim will start Alimta next Wednesday. It feels good to settle into a new plan. Here's hoping for few side effects. Cyndy

Oh Sharon. You and your family are in my prayers. God bless you. Cyndy

Well Frank, I sometimes read your 'stories' to Tim and he gives me back a hearty laugh every time. Thanks a bunch! Cyndy

It's beautiful, isn't It? I have an arrangement of it for my high school chorus.

How interesting that this topic came up, because my husband has been feeling pretty 'crappy' for a while now. He walks like a turtle (has back pain) and spends much time in his chair. He is keeping up with loading the wood stove which is downstairs, but I have to carry the wood in for him and he loads it while sitting in front of the stove. We find out the results of his cat scan on Tuesday, and boy am I apprehensive. I see some folks who posted above continue to be stable yet are still feeling 'crappy'. Well, anyway, I'll share your information with him and he won't feel like he's alone, anyway.

Your story of your children is so excellent. Congratulations on having such a wonderful family. Cyndy

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Hello Margret. You have come to a good place. You will find many friendly folks here who have gone through the same as you and who will have some good advice for you. Hang in there Margret! Cyndy

Hello Kevin. My hubbie had his cat scan yesterday and we won't know until the 7th the results. He too has been having worse back pain and we are hoping it's still just arthritis. Hope you both get good news! Cyndy

Joni, All the folks who posted above have great wisdom. And this all happened too fast for you. What a shock. But you know what? You can go on and you will, and you will have him with you everyday. I promise you, his spirit will be with you and you will know it too. I know this from when I lost my Mom, and I am bracing myself for if my hubbie should go before me. I think having children is what will help me in the end. I am so sorry. Much love, Cyndy