randired Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 I have been poping in and seeing whats going on around here, but my life has been quite crazy for the past month or so. My mom isnt doing so well. She was admitted to Hospice inn (short term hospice) in mid march. She stabelized with her pain meds so a few weeks ago we brought her to a very good nursing home. She has been bedbound for awhile now, but she was still aware and fiesty as ever. The past few days she has started to detieriate very quickly (at least in my mind). her mobility in her left side went from minimal to none, she complains of tummy pains and very painful knee pain. The doctors think that she is internally bleeding in the tummy area and that the cancer has spread to her bones in her leg/knee. Today was very upsetting for me. For the past few days when my son and I came to see her, she would wake up, smile and blow kisses to my son. She would ask me to get her a sip of soda or something and then fall asleep for a bit and wake up when Jory would make noise or drop a toy and then she would say hello.. well today i walk towrds her room and she is calling for her mother, then we walk in and i almost hit the floor. she was white as a ghost with a horrible yellow tone. her lips were white. she looked at me like she was trying to remember me and kept calling for her mom. The nurse told me that she has stopped eating. she just layed there looking like she was in the most horrible pain ever. She couldnt ta;lllk anymore, only little mumbles. I felt so scarred and I just wanted to do something to help her but there was nothing. I dont know what to expect or to say. I think I am just realizing that this is the end and i just dont want it to be. I just wanted to update, if anyone rememnered me, even tho i dont post much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Hi, Randi. Yes, I remember you. I am sorry your mom is in such bad shape. My prayers are with you. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Hi Randi,sorry to hear this news.Sending prayers for strength in the coming days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 thinking of you, Randired. We haven't forgotten you. http://lchelp.org/community/viewtopic.php?t=15215 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Hi Randi, Of course I remember you, and, also, we could never forget your cute little boy. I know these past weeks have been tough on you, and the next few will probably be even harder. You can do this. You CAN get through this. Just be there with your mom as much as you can in these last days, talk sweet to her, love her and hold her hand. Even if she seems not to know you or understand, her spirit knows. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I wish none of us did. Even though losing our moms and dads is as normal as the sun rising every morning, it still hurts deeply. All my love and prayers, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karenl Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Hi Randi I was wondering how you were doing - sorry to hear that things have been so rough. I am sending you lots of strength and positive energy. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
berisa Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 I remember you. I am so sorry for what you are experiencing. It's very sad to see your parents/loved ones deteriating (sp?)...it's just very hard to accept this is the one who had taken care of you..who had been very strong, who was the shelter...I fully understand how you feel. But please know that this is caused by the disease...not real her...get a doctor and try to relief her pain. Pain management is the most important issue at this point. Don't let her suffer...spend more time being with her, she needs you. I pray for you and your mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelanieLR Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Dear Randi, I'm so sorry things have gotten to this point for you & your family. This is just the worst thing to go through. I've told my Husband that I wouldn't change places with him for all the money in the world. Having been on the his end of the disease with my Mother & Father, I can tell you this, I'd much rather be the one with the cancer than the loved one. It may or may not help but if you have a chance, read the letter I posted under Spirituality. I wrote it for my Husband in an attempt to help him understand my viewpoint & he asked me to share it with the people in this group. Please know that my prayers are with you & your entire family. Hugs & prayers, Melanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Love and prayers, sweetheart. New friends, Pat and Brian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Randi, I will say a prayer for your strength and courage. Hang in there!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 I am so sorry your mom is failing. I know this is hard but you can do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea B. Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Randi, I am so sorry to hear your mom isn't doing well. I remember that feeling of being scared all too well. Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Hi Randi, So sorry about the news about your mom. You are going through a difficult time right now but know there are many people here saying prayers to give you strength and support. You can lean on us, we won't let you fall. Keep us posted Peace be with you. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
randired Posted April 19, 2005 Author Share Posted April 19, 2005 Thank you for all your prayers and support. This is a very hard thing to do and i know at the end, ill have a break. I am trying to be as strong as i can! Thank you again Hugs!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail p-m Posted April 19, 2005 Share Posted April 19, 2005 My prayers and thoughts are with you during this very difficult time. I know how hard it is. Gail P-M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elnodel Posted April 19, 2005 Share Posted April 19, 2005 Dear Randi, I know how hard this is -- I was with my mother when she reached that stage, and she, too, was calling for her mother (who had died, when my mother was 16) of cancer, very painfully in the bad old days when there wasn't much anyone could do for anyone. But I think, in the end, being with her mother gave her some peace. When she did go, it was calm and quiet, which helped us accept it, even though we resented it still. Just hang in there and take care of yourself as best as you can during this whole process; your mother would want that. We're all thinking of you. ELlen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daggiesmom Posted April 20, 2005 Share Posted April 20, 2005 ((())) to you all. Be strong. Joanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted April 20, 2005 Share Posted April 20, 2005 Randi, Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this, but I pray God will give you and your family the strength to carry you . Love, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 I hope Red doesn't mind me doing this, but please hold her mother and her and her family in your thoughts. It seems they've received that, "Time is very short," call. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 So very sorry to hear this. Wishes for peace and strength on their way to you and you family. Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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