NancyT Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Pat, I am so very sad and wish there was something I could say, or someway to help. Please know my prayers are with you both. NancyT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Pat, you both certainly have my prayers. It is hard to be enthusiastic about anything when you are sick, tired, hurting, etc., so be patient. The neuropathy is very likely the chemo -- should check with the onc on what to do about it. Hang in there. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Just sending you bunches of hugs gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francesbean Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 My thoughts and prayers.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 ((((Pat))))) (((((Brian))))) Love you guys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nushka Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Pat, It breaks my heart to know how much you love Brian and how it must hurt to see him feeling so badly. You are constantly in my prayers. I am the patient and I know that when my husband asked me "do you" while I was on chemo I always said no. When he just held my hand and said "we are" I went and did feel better after. I was not as sick as Brian. I can't speak for him, but I was depressed and all I wanted to do was lay on the couch. I pray that he is going through all of this because the chemo is working. Praying for good scans soon. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Aw, Pat honey...how did I miss this thread yesterday? I'm so sorry for both of you that things are as they are. but I know he is scared and feeling like he may have gone through all this agony for ???????? what??????. Well...he went thru it all because it's gotten him to this point...and hopefully, will get him well beyond. I guess there is always a price to pay for surviving cancer ...but as my own neuropathy increases and is driving me near out of my mind...I can only imagine how awful it is for Bri with numbness up to his calf. I wish I had answers for you honey...but I think there is a lot of good support/advice here...and I agree, I'd at least put in a call to his onc to express just how this has been affecting Bri mentally/emotionally. How he's sleeping more and detaching from activities he used to be interested in. I assume he's on Neurontin or something for the neuropathy? Could his dosage be adjusted? I wish there was more I could offer that might be helpful...but you know you have every good wish and thought I can muster...you both do. Hang in, dear Pat...and let us know what the onc says after to speak to him. Meanwhile honey...give me that pork chop of yours. We'll all hold that for you while you try to ferret out some answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Dear Pat and Brian, I wish I had some magic words to make this 'all better'. Prayers that today finds Brian feeling better and then tomorrow still more better and so on. Often I thought the tx were going to do Earl in only to have him bounce back once they were done. Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kel M Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Sending a big hug your way, Pat. As we live so far away from each other, I can only offer you positive thoughts and prayers. Know that my prayers are with the both of you. Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdjenkins Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Dear Pat, You and Brian are in my prayers. I pray that he regains his strength soon. I know how hard it is to see someone you love get weaker and withdrawn. I encourage you to have the grandkids over for a visit. I bet once they are there Brian will enjoy his visit, and it will be a great lift for your spirits. My Dad is very withdrawn and weak right now also, but we still stop by for visits. It really helps brighten my Mom's day. Please take care of yourself. Denise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Pat, Not a day goes by that you and Brian are not in my thoughts and prayers. The two of you have given so much of yourselves to all of us even while you are so courageously fighting your own battle. I join with the many people on this board, that love you both, to offer extra prayers for you and Brian. Love , Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Dear Pat, I am so sorry to hear that Brian is feeling so poorly and that you are having such a difficult time. Your pain comes through loud and clear in your post- As many have said, sometimes it is a matter of not giving choices- I found that with Rachel when I asked if she wanted to go to town with me she often opted not to- if I simply showed up and announced I was taking her to town she would most often agree and come along.Of course, there were times when she procrastenated.......and she always commented on how happy she was that she decided to come along. I know how difficult it is to feel that your loved one is losing hope and in response to that withdrawing from you. I wish I could make you feel better, but I know I can't just as others could not help me with how I felt- Just know that we are all praying for both you and Brian and hope that you can continue to have strength knowing that we are all out here for you. I know that you all have made a huge difference for me. My prayers are with you-and of course Brian. I can tell from your posts that you are a compassionate, strong woman- and I thank you for all you have done for me. There is a book that I read- "Final Gifts" that helped me understand more what Rachel was going through- if you do not already have it you might want to pick it up- it is very insightful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flacrakr Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 Pat: My prayers are with Brian and you. I believe that Brian will fell better after the chemo is done. It takes time, but it will happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlieD Posted September 15, 2005 Share Posted September 15, 2005 Pat, I know how Brian feels. Please try to believe that it is the treatment. I felt the same way for a couple weeks, but when the treatment stopped I returned to normal, but it took time. I pray it will be the same for him. Hang tough. God Bless. CharlieD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jang Posted September 15, 2005 Share Posted September 15, 2005 Pat, I don't know what to say...other than I will pray for you and Brian. I hope he's feeling better soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hopeandstrength Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Just wanted to add my hugs and prayers to the rest. I hope Brian feels much better soon. Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darci Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Pat, I am so sorry that Brian is having such a difficult time, and that you have to see him having such a hard time. I am so hopeful that he will start feeling better soon. Please know that you are in my prayers, and keep us posted as to how he is doing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted September 17, 2005 Share Posted September 17, 2005 Pat, I know I am a bit late but I had trouble logging in all week . Just know I have been thinking of you all week and I hope Brian is feeling better... love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calintay Posted September 17, 2005 Share Posted September 17, 2005 Prayers for Brian to feel/get better and for his blood counts to be where they should and most important for him to kick this beast where it counts!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trishnmiller Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Besides the fact that he feels so funky he also sounds clinically depressed. Maybe the Docs could help him out with that. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eppie Posted September 19, 2005 Share Posted September 19, 2005 hang tough, Brian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
endangered but surviving Posted September 19, 2005 Share Posted September 19, 2005 My dear sweetheart you are always in our thoughts and prayers. Please tell that wonderful man of yours that we are all hoping it is the chemo killing off those cancer tumors making him feel so dread. much love, joyce and brent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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