Ann Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Since we're all excited over the wonderful LCSC Cookbooks, I have a question for you today about ingredients. In your opinion, what are the key ingredients for a successful marriage or relationship? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieB Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 For me, I think the key is WORK. Never stop working at making things great and never stop working to making things better. When I leave the room, I want him to think I've made him feel better. When I leave town, I want him to miss me. When he's with me, I want him to feel like I make him a better person. And I want him to make me feel all these things when I'm with him. You get what you give and I absolutely trust that what you throw out into the world comes right back at you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyoung20 Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Communication. Don't let ill feelings build up. Let you partner know how you feel. Discuss your problems and listen. GOD BLESS!! Jami Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Comminication, to me that is the most important. Always be there for each other no matter what. Do those little things you know he will appreciate. Love each other unconditionally. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Tolerance and acceptance of each other's faults. I mean REAL acceptance. In other words, it's the way it is and don't try to change him or her. I came from a very laid back, fun-type family - no rules, no discipline, etc. Don came from a very serious, more stern-type family with very disciplined, rigid work ethics, etc. Our personalities reflected these two backgrounds and, in the beginning, the clash was profound. He couldn't accept my it's-not-a-big-deal attitude, and I couldn't accept him getting angry and making-a-big-deal-out-of-little-things attitude. It took a lot of work, but we learned to accept each other the way we were and, in time, he settled down some and I changed, too, and it ended up that my laid-back, softer personality would calm him down, and his outspoken personality helped me in many ways. It would have been real easy after the first few years for both of us to have walked, but we didn't. We really learned to accept each other just the way we were and we never, never, never cussed at each other or called each other names. I think what really happened was that we both DID change, but we changed ourselves, not each other. You just cannot change another person, and if you try, it's disaster. Love to all, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Each participant is an equal...let the other have their own life...do not smother. jim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Passion and Forgiveness Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 mine is ....LOVE- HONOR - RESPECT -And let her win most argument's..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted November 9, 2005 Author Share Posted November 9, 2005 I think it's very important to remember to "give and take" and find a happy medium in any relationship. I feel as if Peggy could have been writing for me. Dennis and I used to argue over the little things and differences. Finally, we found a middle ground and realized how very unimportant most of these little things really were. I think respect, trust and understanding are all very important ingredients in any relationship. I also think it's very important to stop and think before putting ones' mouth in gear and saying things you might regret. I have a temper that gets out of control easily. Dennis was more laid back and it took a lot to get his temper raised. He would always say to me...."stop and think about what you're doing." I can hear him saying those words right now!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Trust and friendship, I think these are the two things that really define a marriage. Chemistry and communication are definitely important but for me to know that no matter what thatI could trust that Earl was always there for me and with me and that because he was my bestest friend, I enjoyed being with him more than anyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 along with all of th e other key ingredients already mentioned- unconditional love...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilyjohn Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Unconditional love, trust and mutual respect. If you have these 3 things everything else takes care of itself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luvmydog2 Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Honesty...Communication....Understanding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Laughter...a nice dose of faith in each other and God! Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Mutual respect and good friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eppie Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 TIME OUT Good relationships have an understood system of taking TIme out to calm down and regroup. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Humor....friendship, fire and fun. When I was younger, I was told that the "best" guy was one that would hold your hair while you puked - I told my husband that a while ago, leading to: If a person cannot see the humor in beginning to lose hair and getting sick while their spouse volunteers an "I'll hold your hair"...well, they don't know a good time! (and a liberal amount of great sex doesn't hurt) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daggiesmom Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Love, compassion, forgiveness, friendship and laughter. I've truly been blessed, and I'm very grateful for my husband. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me. Joanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kim Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Compromize. You can't always have it your way, and vise versa. It's been 10 years now and I don't think my husband gets this one yet!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilyjohn Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 One more thing that we all forgot to mention. In any relationship you can not suceed if you do not have self respect. I think that is the real key to happiness. If you do not respect yourself how can you respect anyone else or expect them to show you respect? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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