teriw Posted December 30, 2007 Share Posted December 30, 2007 I'm feeling especially frustrated at the moment when well meaning (truly, well meaning) people in my life try to relate to what I'm going through when they haven't been there. When I hear, "I know how you feel," but I know the person can't possibly know, I get so upset inside. When someone assumes I'm generally "depressed" or "down," I actually get angry. I almost feel insulted, like my grief and my situation in general are being diminished. I sometimes find myself going a step further than I'd like to in order to explain where I am at the moment. It's not enough for me to understand that there's a difference, I want them to understand it also. Then I start to feel like I'm being insulting, assuming that the person doesn't understand. I imagine being on the receiving end of it probably makes the person wonder why they bothered trying to make me feel better in the first place. Then I have that sense that I'm in "it's all about me" mode. Why can't I just let it go and realize that they're just trying to be good friends, and that they're relating in the only way they have to relate? I so don't want to become one of those people who is always "one-upping" someone else's misery. Oh, the horror of that thought. I'm starting to drive myself nuts. Anyone else dealing with this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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