DianeR Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 As of today my dad is in hospice care. He put up a great battle with this beast and I admire him more than ever for the fight he gave it! I was one who did not post often, but still got so much support from this website. It gave me much information and hope. I could not have made it through the last 8 months without that HOPE! I want to thank Katie & Rick because I am sure there are many others, like myself, who you are unaware of all the help this site gives to us. My dad was told on Thursday that there wasn't much more that could be done. He didn't have much success with either chemo and the cancer continued to progress. The chemo was doing more harm then good to him. I was devastated by this news (even though I knew it was coming). I got all the info on hospice and when I walked out in the hall of the Dr.'s office there was my dad smiling and talking to a little girl (about 2 yrs. old) tellling her how pretty she looked in her outfit and bringing a smile to the girl's face even when he was suffering so much. That's just the great person he is and one more wonderful memory of my dad I get to add to the million others I already have of him!!! I feel like the luckiest person in the world to be able to call this man "MY DAD". He is one very special person who this beast will never steal from me. He will always live on in my heart and memories. I LOVE YOU DADDY! DianeR Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TAnn Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Diane, So sorry to hear the news of your dad. He sounds like a very wonderful man and father. Hang on to your memories and I will be praying for your family. TAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shelliemacs Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 your dad sounds like a remarkable person. keep hope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Diane, thanks for letting us know. I am saddened at this turn of events. I wish you peace. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Dianne,This is very saddening news.Your Dad sounds like a REMARKABLE MAN.You will be in our prayers for strength and peace in the coming days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJ Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 diane, your father sounds like a very special person indeed. i'm sure that you are his greatest fan. i'm so sorry about what you are going through. my prayers are with you and your family during this difficult journey. God bless, mj Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babesdaughter Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 I'm sorry to hear about your dad. As trite as it may sound, make the best of the time you have. Let your heart talk, not your head....talk, talk, talk....talk to the hospice workers get to know them as well as you can, it does make a difference in the care. There are several good books to read as you enter this stage of your dad's life...."Final Gifts" changed my outlook on death in general and very specifically as I dealt with my Mom's final days. I pray that you have peace and comfort.....and that your Dad is able to enjoy this last journey as much as possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carrie Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Diane, I am so sorry to hear about your father's condition but touched to hear you speak so highly of him. I will be praying for him and your family as you go through this time. Carrie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilgna Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Your father is an remarkable man,who has bravely fought, with an even more remarkable daughter by his side.... prayers to you and yours... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Diane, I am sorry things are not going well in your battle. But it sounds to me like your Dad has won anyhow, judging by your report of him. I am sending hugs and prayers for strength through this final part of his journey. Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Diane, There are still memories to be made. Talk to him, love him, hug him. Trust your instincts to do the right thing. Love always leads the way. May God give you strength and comfort during this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Diane, I could have signed my name to your post. Your dad sounds like a cheerful, optimistic, happy person like my dad was. I remember when I had to tell him that there was nothing more they could do, and I got weepy. He made a silly grin at me and gave me the Jackie Gleason punch and made me laugh. He was 76 years old and teased and flirted with the nurses almost to the day of his death. Your last days with him will be the most precious days to you. I hope you get to be involved in his care a lot because it is really a blessing to be able to do it, and you will be so warm inside knowing how much you helped him. Applying a cool cloth to his forehead when he's hot, fluffing his pillow, covering his feet when they get cold with an extra blanket, helping him drink cool water, wiping the spills from his chin, feeding him, combing his hair, filing his fingernails - all of these things will be precious memories. Do as much of these things as you can. You will be glad you did. All my love and prayers, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donaf Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Diane, I read your post and you say: My dad was told on Thursday that there wasn't much more that could be done My sister-in-law was told the same thing today about my brother. It is a very sad day. Those words are so hard to accept. Please know I am praying for you, for strength to get you through this very difficult time. D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeeTaa Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 I'm crying right along with you and Katie B. You sound like you've got such a great relationship with your Daddy . . . now you've got some time to make it even more so. I also highly recommend that you read Final Gifts or Crossing the Creek (www.crossingthecreek.com) for information about what to expect and how you can best help your Dad now. Praying for us all, TeeTaa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
berisa Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Yes, your dad is just amazing and wonderful. Diane, did your dad try IRESSA? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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