I know things are heavy here, and I don't want to add to the heaviness but I've been thinkative about this and need to express....
At times I'm finally starting to FEEL losing Mom. And it hurts. Bad.
And I'm in the midst of these gift-weeks with Andy...
but when these weeks are up, he will be gone *out there.*
And I won't have my husband *OR* my Mom. I'm not sure what I'll do. When Andy was in Basic Training and we went through our first separation, I went and watched West Wing with her every Wednesday and she had me sleep over at their house on special days and we didn't necessarily sit around talking about it, but she took care of me.
Now that Mom is gone, Andy lets me cry, and lets me eat too much ice cream, and watches sunsets with me and takes care of me...
And in a few weeks they'll both be unreachable. Mom will be all the way gone, and Andy won't be all the way gone but he'll be in a scary place where I can't get to him.
And I've been so strong up til now with all of this, but there was something to DO then.... There was a cause. There was an adversary to fight. There will be things to do still, but far less. I can feel the void seeping in already.
I don't know how I'm going to get through this without either of them. And I'm scared.