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I went through some of the same thing with my husband Alan. He spent alot of time in the hospital and everytime he was there it was because "I didn't want to deal with him anymore!!!" It was all my fault he was in the hospital and I was not doing enough to get him out. I too cried many many tears, but at the same time I knew the man blaming me for everything was not my "husband". Someone mentioned Decadron. Alan was on this steriod and had severe side effects one being he literally lost his mind and was in an organic psycosis. Not sure your mom is on it, but something to look into. Please try and stay strong, I know this is easier said then done, but it will pass. Remember to take care of yourself and do not let yourself be a punching bag. regardless of the situation it is not acceptable

For me it is Hot Tamales (I was born without the Chocolate Gene, I do not really like Chocolate) . I know it is crazy, I used to give most my candy away. except Hot Tamales!!!!! Debbie Husband Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Maybe you can contact Mike S. and have him teach you martial arts and with a sly little left hook to the rib cage you can teach those ------- a lesson on how Ladies should be treated!!!! They obviously have a lot to learn.

Gail, I am sorry about the "magic bullet" not working, but also happy to hear your Dad's quality of life has improved. he is eating again and that is always a good sign and any weight gain is a big positive. My husband lost over 50 pounds and has only put 7 back on in 3 months, but I will take it. continued prayers for you and your family!!! Debbie Husband Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

My house has always had that "lived" in look. Any of my frieds or family who drop by unannoucnced know me well enough to know my house will never pass "white glove" test. Thank goodness Alan knew going into this marriage that housekeeping was not one of my strong points!!!! (left dishes in the sink this morning) Debbie Husband Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Cindi, So happy to hear you are "ok" I was searching the site just to find any news!!! I think a few kegs need tapping at the pub. And anyone who coaches little girls hockey is a big hero in my book. I start playing when I was 36!!! Get the Hell out of there soon!!!!! Debbie Husand Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

I can not see the picture but I have no doubt it is a beautiful picture to go with the wonderful person. (I will try to view on my home computer later today, work probably filtered the picture out.) Debbie Husband Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

OK this is a 2 part answer for me. 16 years ago I would have started with an Ice cold beer and then continued through the night. As I graduated from AA 16 years ago I will just have an ice cold diet coke!!! Is there a dart board in the pub!!!! Debbie Husband Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Happy Birthday Cindy, remember it is YOUR Special day to do whatever you want. That's the best part of a birthday. I hope all your birthday wishes come true Debbie Husband Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Many prayers to you and your family Debbie Husband Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Many Many prayers your way. Debbie Husband Alan DX small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Beth, I have no great words of wisdom, only those of support and prayer for what you are going through. When I go to Church tomorrow I will add your family to our prayer book, so know that many people will be praying for you. I hope that gives you a small comfort. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Before one particular Halloween I left my bike behind someones car and it was run over, I was devastated and my parents could not afford to buy me another one. Our community in Pittsburgh had this big Halloween contest and my mom dressed me up as an old lady (put paper in the back of the dress so I looked like I was all hunched over) well she did such a great job I won 1st place. Yup a new bike!!! I still have the picture. Debbie

Like the article mentions, so many states are dependant on the tax money generated by cigarettes that they have no incentive to prevent the start or develope programs to really help people quit. My husband suffers from Small cell lung cancer that has spread to his brain. He still smokes a pack or more a day. That's how devestating this addiction is. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

I am so very very sorry for your loss. I can not imagine what it was like for you to go through this orderal. At least your Dad is at peace and no longer suffers from the beast. I will pray that as time goes by your heart will heal a little as I know it will never heal completely. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Happy Birthday Nancy, enjoy your very special day!!! Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 205

Ok no laughing, but I wanted to play middle linbacker for the Pittsburgh Steelers!!!! I said no laughing. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

unfortunatley I have to work today!!!! Probably better that way I will make money instead of spending. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

I can only speak as the caregiver for my husband, but other than some radiation burn and feeling tired Alan tolerated radiation pretty well. (he also had issues with swallowing, but we worked around that with soft foods). Good luck in your fight with the beast. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Hi, my husband will sometimes get dizzy and this is primarily due to low blood pressure. I have a home blood pressure machine that helps me keep an eye on it and when it gets real low I just remind him to get up slowly and be careful when he walks. Debbie Husband Alan DX with Small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

This one is easy, I married him. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Ok I will admit to being superstitious, but only when it comes to sports. I have been playing some kind of sport my whole life. when I play hockey I put my equipment on the same way every game. If I play really well and we win I will wear the same T shirt for the next game. so only with sports. I won't go into how elabrate it gets when Notre Dame is playing LOL. in my everyday life, the real world, it is all about God and his guidance. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005

Jamie, I believe God hears us whenever we speak to him. I will be going to Chapel today and will add your family to my prayers. We are here for you to vent to as many of us have done in the past. Debbie Husband Alan DX SCLC Jan 10th 2005

this one is easy, Pizza, because they deliver!!! In fact I think I have the number saved on my cell phone LOL!!!!! that would be pepperoni, mushroom and black olives Debbie Husband Alan DX SCLC Jan 10th 2005

Alan and I will be going to the Cyman Islands, flying 1st class. we will have a private bungalow just steps from the water. The sand is white, warm and soft. Our days will be spent letting the hot sun soak to our bones, we will snorkel, take long naps together and our nights will be spent walking hand in hand along the beach as the sun sets. As it will be over out 14th wedding anniversary (this april 4th)we will have a romantic dinner and enjoy looking back on how fast these 14 years have gone by. (our 13th anniversary was spent in the hospital) Debbie Husband Alan DX with limited small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005