Tanner Posted April 30, 2007 Share Posted April 30, 2007 My Karen is due to have a PET on Weds and an MRI and chest CT on Thurs to see where everything is at. We are so stressed out. And more than a little scared. Test time is always frightening for us. It always good news / bad news. With the bad news more intense than the good news is relieving. Anyway - yesterday her breathing started to become more labored and her energy level plummeted. She is still eating and drinking, but now she just wants to sleep all day and even carrying on a conversation is taxing. This, after 6 weeks of really doing well and getting around and even exercising. She doesn't want to go to the hospital. And I respect that. I am trying to get her in to see the doc tomorrow. I hate this! And she cried all day Saturday because she just wants her life back! She just wants to be able to play with the girls and go to the zoo, but just walking to the bathroom is becoming too much and the girls are so scared they hardly interact with her anymore. Cancer sucks. I want my wife back. I want our life back. Tanner Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather_T Posted April 30, 2007 Share Posted April 30, 2007 Oh Tanner I am so sorry Karen is not feeling well!!!! I hope you can get in to see the doctor soon. My prayers are with you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terriep Posted April 30, 2007 Share Posted April 30, 2007 My prayers for your family as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raneyf Posted April 30, 2007 Share Posted April 30, 2007 I'm sorry Tanner. I hope this is just a temporary set-back. I'm with you and Karen. I want my life back too. Try to get in with the doctor tomorrow, and try to see the positive. If this came on kind of quickly, maybe an infection or something? Good luck and your family is in my prayers. Raney Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 I'm sorry Tanner. I wonder if you shouldn't make sure she is getting the Avastin rather than the chance she is on a placebo? Let us know how the doctor appointment goes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Definitely see the doctor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mary colleen Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner, I'm so sorry. I know that you both want your life back. Let's say some prayers for the tests to be ok. Try to dig deep and find that bit more of strength that has carried your family through this far. It's there. MC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daddyslittlegirl Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 I'm so sorry for everything you and your family are going through. I pray that you all of you are able to get your lives back real soon. Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wendyr Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner I'm so sorry Karen is feeling so ill & I know how hard it is on you. Sometimes being the caregiver is extremely stressful. We don't/can't complain because we're not the one's with cancer but I believe that when one person in the family gets cancer it affects everyone Prayers coming your way for good test results. Maurice is in the same trial as Karen & he had a ct scan today. He spent all day in bed today after we got home from Orlando this morning. We get the results Thursday so I totally know where you're at. Good Luck & God Bless wendyr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ztweb Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Oh Tanner, I am so sorry. Please know we are here for you, and that prayers are being said. Blessings, Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner, This roller coaster certainly takes it's toll on the patient and caregiver. Try to do what Mary Colleen said, dig way deep down for an ounce more of strength. Many hugs and prayers being sent your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner, First: prayers for better days, Second: Karen must also feel the stress of the coming tests and that could be why she is getting weaker these last days. Hugs Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner, I am so sorry Karen is not doing well. I agree with Don .. see the doctor or at least call them and let them know what is going on. In the meantime, know that I am praying for her and you. God Bless, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish2418 Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Sending lots of prayers for you, Karen and the girls. I hope the docs can have Karen feeling better soon. Hang in there. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner, I can so relate -- I'm so sorry for what you're both going through. I know how stressful and frightening test times are, and when she's feeling so poorly it's all the worse. We've been going through that too. What I have learned here (among other things) is that things can turn around when you least expect them to. I pray that's the case for your wife. One day at a time... Hugs, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Prayer said for good test results. Hang in there Tanner. It as hard on you as it is on your wife, in different ways of course. I hope she will get good test results and her life back soon! Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanner Posted May 1, 2007 Author Share Posted May 1, 2007 All of the prayers are great ya'll. Thank you. We have an appt today at 2pm. If I can get to a computer after, I'll let you know how it went. Again, thanks Tanner Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hockeyma Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner, I am so sorry Karen isn't feeling good. Yes cancer sucks and there is no joy in living with cancer as far as I am concerned, it is a constant battle and roller coaster ride. Take advantage of the time you have together now. I pray for you that things get better and all the best with the scans. Heather Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Judy-OK Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner here are more prayers headed your direction. Hoping to see a post from you after your trip to the doctor. I had a PET today and not results to Friday. The waiting could quite possibly have a lot to do with how your wife is feeling. I vascilate between wanted to drink gallons of wine or take an extra ativan from time to time. I hope all goes well and she feels better soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowergirlie Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Tanner, I am so sorry for what you are feeling. I remember feeling that same exact thing and wondering when it would be more normal again. I hope all goes well with the PET and CT. The anticipation of the tests and then having to wait for the results was almost more than we could bare. I would be in knots trying to pre guess the results and be hopeful yet prepared. If you can, just do something nice for yourselves (listen to a favorite song or snuggle or take a bath)...something simple that you both love and enjoy and take a lot of deep breaths. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. Flowergirlie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanner Posted May 1, 2007 Author Share Posted May 1, 2007 Got home from the doc. They moved up her brain MRI to tomorrow after the PET. There doesn't seem to be anything wrong with her - other than the cancer part you know. I think they are worried about more brain mets. I don't know. Wish I had a nanny for the kids so I could be there with Karen while she was testing. Wish I had the money so I could pay for a nanny to be with the kids! Thanks again ya'll. We'll get the results on Thurs afternoon. Fingers crossed. Tanner Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Judy-OK Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Thanks for the update Tanner and I will follow your lead and cross my fingers with you in addition to extra prayers. Keep a good attitude!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowergirlie Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Can you take the girls with you to be with Karen during the tests? Do you have anyone you know who can take the girls so you can be there? Just some thoughts. I know how good it feels to be able to be there for the tests as a support and also for Karen to know you are there. Otherwise I wish I could be there to help you out. The kids are so wonderful in our lives so I know how hard it is to keep the fine balance. Sending all of you warm thoughts and hugs. Peace...Flowergirlie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wendyr Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 Hey Tanner: fingers are crossed, toes too. Maurice has been in the same trial as Karen since the end of Dec & had a ct yesterday. We get our results on thursday so let's hope we all have a good week. Good Luck & God Bless wendyr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish2418 Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 Hang in there, Tanner. I'm continuing to pray for all of you. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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