karlakay Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 After battling this disease since 8/06, my husband, Frank, and I jointly decided this weekend to give up the fight. He has lost the use of his legs and his mental capacity comes and goes - one minute he is very lucid and the next - not so much. He spent 9 days in the hospital and 2 weeks in a skilled nursing facility but all he really wanted was to COME HOME. On Monday, I made that happen for him. I had to have an ambulance bring him home because I could not get him into the house. When they opened the back of the ambulance and got him out, I said "honey, you're home". His response back was "I thought I'd never get here". I have enlisted the help of hospice and have a daughter who is committed to helping me with caring for Dad. He is in no pain for which I am very grateful. If it was up to him, he would pass now - he continually keeps saying he is ready to go but I guess his body's just not ready to quit yet. This forum has been a lifesaver for me through this journey and to all of you out there, I say "thank you". I wouldn't recognize you if I ran into you in Wal-Mart but many of you have touched me for a lifetime. During a time of my life when my friends just didn't get it - you all did! Peace be with all of you as you continue this journey - my journey now is to walk this final walk with my husband of 26 years and allow him the best transition into the next world as possible. Karla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Don't view this as giving up the fight...he is winning the fight by calling the shots and doing things his way. Victory will be his. I think it already is to have such solid support. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry's Wife Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 (((Karla))) My prayers are with you. Lynn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
recce101 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Karla, I agree with Nick. Much Aloha, Ned Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 The fight is his to continuie by surviving physically and mentally every day. HE si a long way from givin in to Lung Cancer!! THoughts and Prayers always!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyoung20 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 You guys are in my prayers. God Bless! Jamie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Peace be with you Karla. I will keep you in my prayers. I hope Frank passes peacefully knowing how much he is loved. Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaminkw Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Karla: I haven't be on the site long enough to "know" you and Frank but it sounds like you both have found peace with your current decision. It touched me to hear your goal for the two of you now. Judy in Key West Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Yep, it sounds like the battle fronts have just shifted for you. Prayers for peace for both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Karla: may peace and comfort be with you and Frank and the rest of your family. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Karla, May God be with you and Frank as you go through these very difficult days. Yes , you are among people who " get it" and I want you to know that we are here for you now. God Bless, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CaroleHammett Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 Bless you for accepting and agreeing with his desire to come home. Not all family members are willing to put the patient first. Because of you, his last walk will be peaceful and content. Carole Life is a Terminal Condition Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiny Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 Karla- Best thoughts are with you and your family. It was very important to both of my parents to be able to be home surrounded by loved ones for their last moments. We were all the winners, as odd as that may sound. Peace be with you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brandyswa Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 ((((Karla)))) yall have our prayers and know you are in our thoughts. Enjoy each day and take care of yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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