fade2blk Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Hello All, thanks to everyone who responded to my previous posts concerning my grandmother. She passed away Monday, March 15 at 5:30 p.m. My grandmother had adenocarcinoma with brain mets. She had been living in a nursing home for about 7 weeks when she fell and broke her hip. Following her surgery on Mar. 10 for her fractured hip (which she tolerated very well), she developed a blood clot in her lung. Blood thinners successfully dissolved the clot, but her blood then thinned too much. Her doctor said he believed the cancer was in her liver, causing her to metabolize the cumadin too quickly. They then got her blood counts back where they should be. Following all that, she took a seriously downward turn. She had about 4 and a half days of extreme restlessness and agitation and discomfort. Her breathing was so poor that she needed pure oxygen through a mask 24 hours a day. She was retaining tons of fluid. She wasn't eating. They started her on a morphine drip to improve her comfort levels and breathing. She became unresponsive (not from the morphine) around 6:00 p.m. Sunday, March 14. She had the purple mottling on her legs. Her doctor told us she would not live through the night. She did and held on until 5:30 p.m. Monday, March 15. What an unbelievably courageous woman. She had so many people who loved her and I was so close to her, I feel like I've lost a parent. Some things I am thankful for: She was able to be in a private room in the hospital (not that dreaded nursing home) and the nurses all took exceptional care of her and us too, even bringing in 3 beds so we all could spend the night with her Sunday night; My mom and granddad and I all got to tell her it was okay to go to Heaven and to tell her goodbye and that we loved her while she was fully coherent and could understand; I was able to go home Monday morning and pick up my 3-year old son who she adored beyond belief and bring him to the hospital so he could hold his "Meemom's" hand before she passed; and she was not alone when she went. This was a huge worry for all of us since we all live far away from my grandparents and my grandfather really did not want to be alone at the time of her passing. Big hugs are going out to everyone on this board. Thanks for all of your support and prayers. -Dee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Dee I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May you find relief from your gried knowing that you were able to be there with your dear grandmother. Elaine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Dee, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved grandmother. Prayers and hugs are going out to you and your family. Blessings Bett Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margaret Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 May God hold you and all of your family especially close during this time. Rejoice in the memories and knowing that you saw your loved through to her rest. Blessings, Margaret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 So sorry for your loss, Dee. Glad you could all be together in the end. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Sorry about your grandmother. Prayers going for the whole family. Hugs J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MO_Sugar Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 I am also sorry for your loss but glad in that she went with family around and knew she was loved. God Bless, MO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeeTaa Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 May your beloved grandmother rest in peace. Blessings, TeeTaa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Dee, I am so sorry you have lost your grandmother but very glad that the circumstances for all involved (private room, being there, etc.) worked out so well and even the great-grandboy got to say goodbye. May your journey through grief be brief and punctuated with smiles and sunshine! Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 I'm sorry for your loss, Dee. Fay A. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norme Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Dee, so sorry for your loss. Death is so very hard to take. Glad the family was with her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 So sorry Dee. What a loving family you are and what a lucky lady your Grandma was to have you all. My thoughts will be with you in the days ahead. Paddy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiny Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 Dee- I'm very sorry for the loss of your beloved grandmother. She was lucky to have you and you were fortunate to have had her for as long as you did. May she rest in peace and be painfree and may your memories sustain your love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fade2blk Posted March 23, 2004 Author Share Posted March 23, 2004 Your condolences mean so much. I am just in awe at the support that people here offer even to the non-regulars like me. What an amazing group. Thanks again. I do plan on lurking here for a while -- I'm pretty addicted. I'm sending big hugs and prayers everyone's way. -Dee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donaf Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 Dee, Thinking of you and sending prayers your way. Donaf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karen335 Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 Dee, I am so sorry. My condolences to you and your family. Prayers for you and your family... God bless, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debaroo Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 Dee, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your dear grandmother had a wonderful sendoff, though. Being surrounded by those that love you most, it is a wonderful thing. I hope that you find comfort in that, in days to come, and I hope that the memories that you have of her serve as a comfort to you, in time. Please take care, and stay on here, if you can or are up to it. take care, deb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 Dee, Condolences. Please remember you are in our prayers. XOXOX MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
K and Kids Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Dee, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. There is no doubt that love surrounded your grandmother through all of this. Wishing you love and comfort too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 Dee, I'm so sorry...I am sending prayers for you're family. Laurie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melinda Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Dee-- I am so sorry to read about your grandmother. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Sincerely, Melinda and Geoff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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