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Blog Comments posted by BridgetO
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Good for you for developing a change in attitude! No one deserves lung cancer no matter what they did and embarrassment is just a waste of energy. Yay for pride--and hope!
- Tom Galli and Justin1970
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I'm thrilled that you've had another cancerversary! Keep on going!
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Congratulations, Tom! i second everything Lisa, Lennie and Lou have said! Yay for you!
- LouT, Lisa Haines, laurie2020 and 1 other
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Happy Cancerversary!
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I think a lot of us deal with similar issues about spending and saving, especially if we're retired and/or not able to work. I had a friend who had stage 4 ovarian cancer with a recurrence. She said "if I'm going to fight for my life, I'm going to have a life worth fighting for." She spent her retirement savings on several expensive trips, including wonderful small-ship cruises to the Galapagos and the Arctic, on which she was able to indulge her passion for photography. At her memorial service, we were inited to choose one of her photos, and I picked one of a leaping polar bear cub, which I always think of when I think of her. She spent her limited time living and not dying. She's one of my role models.
Bridget O
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Steff, if you get the crystal ball, let me know. I have some questions for it. I would love to go back to work and to the swimming pool but it's not looking likely. The pool is closed ant the building is being used as a homeless shelter to allow people who were in crowded shelters to spread out. i could actually go back to my job any time i think it's safe enough. (I'm on call in a different homeless shelter. They're being pretty careful there and haven't had any COVID-19 infections, I don't think). But my doctor at the outset of the pandemic advised me against it, because I'm in a high risk group, primarily because of my age (74). And unfortunately I'm not getting any younger.
Bridget O
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You are entitled to a meltdown whenever you need/chose/are overcome by one! I'm glad today is a better day.
Bridget O
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I think both survivors and caregivers want to avoid unlioading their baggage on each other. It's inevitable that we do that some though. One thing I love about these forums is it gives me a place I can unload some stuff without unduly alarming my spouse. I know she wants to make things better for me, but at times I just need to vent or complain or share anxieties. Here others have been through a lot of the same stuff and will understand without feeling responsible or worried. Thanks everybody for being here!
Bridget O
- Susan Cornett, Tom Galli and Steff
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I have in the past helped a number of people with SS disability applications, or SSI disability .(Social Security is based on what you paid in to the system; SSI is available if you haven't paid enough into the system but have very limited income and resources--the disability standard for both programs is essentially the same) Tom's advice is excellent. Two things I'd like to add. First, submit the most complete documentation and information you can at the initial application. If you have a case manager through any agency, ask for their help with this, or whether they can refer you to any other local agency that can help at the initial application stage. Second, the Socail Security Administration will probably send a questionnaire about your abilities/disabilitie to a person you name in your application. You need to be sure that this person knows that this is coming and is also aware of the disability standards (as Tom says in #3 that you should be). It can be difficult for some people to fill these out for others because they either want to maximize the extent of the disabilty to be helpful (as in "she can't do anything for herself and requires total care") or minimize it because they are in denial or trying to be optiimistic. (as in " she is a wonderful person who tries to do everything for herself and only needs a little help"). It's important for the person filling out the form to be detailed and realistic and as Tom says- be sure to include treatment side effects, especially when treatment is long-term.
Social Security is a really convoluted system, so if you can find someone to help who has experience with it, so much the better. And in any case, be sure to meet any appea deadlines and don't give up!
A New Chapter
in Stay The Course
A blog by Tom Galli in Survivor Blogs
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Tom, I'm so sorry to hear about your increasing pain. Do you have a pain specialist or palliative care doc on your team? I wish I could email some pain relief and good sleep, or just send it through the air. Or something. You are a model of hope to so many of us. It hurts to see you suffering. Hang in there, dear Tom.