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Hi everyone.

First I want to say thank you for all of your heartfelt responses. I haven't been online for a week or so, because right after I posted the first time my mom came home and it went downhill from there.

She was home Saturday, went into the hospital Sunday, went to hospice Wednesday and passed away at dawn on Friday morning. Watching her decline so fast was devastating, and watching her take her last breath was surreal and heartbreaking. Luckily my sisters and I were there holding her hand and telling her over and over "We love you, Mom" as her soul left her body. My baby was kicking me the whole time. I put her hand on my stomach for a moment at the very end.

I am numb and just waiting to get through the visitation and funeral. I know that after all of that is over, things will come crashing down as I try to get back to my normal life...which previously included daily phone conversations with my mom and visits one or two times a week. She was so intertwined in my life. I don't know how I'll make it without her.

Erin, your story made me cry and I can relate so very much. Thank you for sharing your experience with me...and I pray that you find some semblance of peace soon. My heart breaks for you.

Everyone else, thank you so much for sharing your stories and for your encouragement. You all are brave and inspiring people...

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Michele If you need anything there are a lot of big dry shoulders to cry on here. Many condolences and Prayers for comfort. If you need us we are here for you.

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I am so sorry Michele for the passing of your mom. I know how much that hurts and it always will. Moms are just so special. They are just suppose to always be there for us.

Keep you mom close in that special place in your heart just reserved for moms.

My deepest condolences. She will be there in spirit for the birth of your baby.

Maryanne

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Michele -

I am so terribly sorry. Please email me when you come up for some air. I can very much relate to what you are going through and hope that I may be able to give you some comfort. My mom did make it to see my baby born...but I understand all the emotions as my mom was my very best friend in the world. I miss her every single day - it has been just under seven months.

I am so, so sorry. I am sending you a PM as well.

Holly

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Michelle,

I'm just so very sorry... As Holly and Erin have mentioned here already there are several of us who lost our Mom's either shortly before or after having a baby born. I'm another. It's hard and it sure complicates the emotions.

We care and we are here to support you.

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Michele,

I just don't believe it. I am so very VERY sorry. It's just TERRIBLE that things turned so awful so quickly. It's not fair. That baby should know his or her grandma. I am heartsick. I know we should be looking for the meaning of the baby's due date, and the reason why you were given this baby in the first place, but at this point it gives little comfort when you've just lost your mom. It's how I felt when my mom died. But I'll tell you, even though I've given birth before, I had honestly forgotten how wonderful that shining moment is when you hear your baby's cry. For me, it was tinged with sorrow, having lost my mom just three weeks beforehand, and I am bitter about going through my shining moment in a fog.

Michele, you poor thing, God bless you and that baby. I wish I could tell you that the baby will take away your pain, but I can't. What he/she will do is make every moment that much more intense and special. I am so much more sensitive to each tiny thing now. The pain is just wat I said before: unbearable at times. I am coming upon six months and it only seems to intensify with each passing day. And, also, take comfort in your children; I promise they will help you get through these early days.

Please, don't let this be the last time we hear from you. Something in your post suggests to me that you won't be back. I hope you reconsider and stay here, though it may be hard to return and post in Grieving. I'd love to hear how you're doing both emotioally and physically as time goes on.It has helped me so much to know I have the support of the people here, who really understand.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Again, I'm so sorry for everything. It's hard to try to make sense of it all, so right now, don't even try. You're heading for a lot of emotions you didn't even know you had in you. And I think if you come back here for support, you will find it, you will use it, and it will help you through some difficult times.

All my best,

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Michele,

I am so, so sorry to read your post. I can truly understand having a best friend in a mother, as my mom is my best friend in the whole world. Losing her would be like losing the world. Please know that we are here for you, and that you have us for support. I pray that God wraps his arms around you, holds you tight, and breaths comfort into you for you and for your baby. Eternal rest be granted unto your mother, and may God's perpetual light shine upon her always.

God bless,

Jen

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