kimberliebishop Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 My mother was dx. with stage IV non-small cell lung cancer in late May of this year. She lived alone for awhile through her first round of chemo and got really dehydrated wich made her really sick. She wasnt doing all that great so we decided to move her to assisted living facility. As the months have gone by alot of things have happen to her ( 3 heart attacks, broken arm from a fall, multiple hospital stays for pneumonia). The doctor decided no more chemo, but finished her radiation therapy. In October she was dx. with brain and bone metastasis. Underwent surgery to remove a brain met. Did really well for about a week. Then all hell broke loose. She has been going down hill ever since. She has been very weak and confused consistent with delirium. No more treatments. Well on friday of last week I go to visit her and cant even wake her. She would arouse but not wake up. I called non emergency and they transported her to the local Er and they dx her with narcotic overdose. Wont admit no medical reason to they say. Hold pain meds and see Dr. on Monday they say. I go up saturday morning and she is no better. Nurse at assisted facility says that its probably progression of illness. I was not convinced. So I call non emergency back to transport her to hospital. After about an hour of me screaming and yelling they finally admit and dx her with pneumonia and dehydration. After three days in hospital and 1000 times better she is ready to go home and we get the news....the assisted living facility no longer wants her there, meaning my mother is homeless. They want her to go to a nursing home. My mom is now crying uncontrolable. The discharge nurse is looking at me for an answer. I have never had a harder decision to make in my life. I know that a nursing facility is probably the best place for my mom since I have 4 kids and a 17yr. foster son but I just couldnt send her there. I brought her home with me. My husband and I moved our bed into our sons room ( 12 and 13) and the four of us are sharing so my mom can have our room. My husband is the best in the world I think. So now we are taking it day to day. It is very overwhelming. I do have 3 sisters but I cant seem to get them intrested in what is going on. So I feel totally alone. I am watching my mom die right in front of my eyes and they dont seem to care. It makes me so mad cause mom always asks for them and I dont know what to say..I dont know what to do......Guess I am just having a bad day today....Maybe tomorrow will be better.....Thanks for letting me vent........Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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