Larry's Wife Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Goodness. I don’t even know where to start. My son is troubled. Honestly, he’s been troubled for a long time…and I’ve had blinders on. A few months after Larry was diagnosed with terminal cancer, Nick committed a crime. He entered a diversion program for first time offenders. He seemed to be remorseful, worked hard and graduated from the program. I really thought (hoped) he was “rehabilitated”. Yes, I’ve had problems with him since Larry died. Not wanting to go to school and getting poor grades. I tried to talk to him about it. He never had anything to say. I suggested counseling. He didn’t want to talk to anyone but me. But he wasn’t talking to me, either. The very day I was arranging for a mentor for him, the police came to my workplace to show me a video...he committed another crime. And the police suspect him in a few more, so at this point, I’m not sure what all we are facing here. Of course, I am devastated. And angry. And mortified. And guilt-ridden. And sad. And, and, and... I have obtained a placement for him in a home for troubled youth. It’s Christian-based. Heavy on love and counseling. It’s not a boot camp by any means. Their goal is healing hurts and to put families back together. They offer individual counseling for each of us and we will attend family counseling together. He’ll be there for a year to 18 months. Of course, the judge doesn’t even know what I’ve done yet. I have a letter asking him to assign Nick to their program. They say that they have a good rapport with the judicial system, so I’m praying that it will work out. From my understanding, the judge could order Nick to be held in juvenile detention for as little as 21 days or until he’s 24 years old, if he doesn’t agree to assign him to the program I have selected. But I know in my heart that juvenile detention will not solve our problems. How can I live without my son? He’s all I have! But if I don’t do this, I’ve lost him already. I’m not willing to give up on him and I’m not willing to give up on being a family. This is the last thing I can do for Nick before he is on his own. But is it the right thing? I’m putting all my eggs in this basket and it frightens the hell out of me. I’m scared. Larry would NEVER have agreed to this. But he’s not here and I feel so alone. I know that Nick needs more help than I can provide. But this is just so hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.