MSWKitty Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 well today was the day my dad was supposed to get the radiosurgery. last night, however, after a family meeting with the doctors about my dad's steady declining health-- he's starting to have mini-strokes, it was decided not to go any further. we also decided on a no-resuscitation approach, so, he's basically in hospice care at this point. i'm still in a state a disbelief. we all cried off and on last night. i'm so overwhelmed that i'm not sure i've completely taken it ALL in yet, even though i've had a number of really big break downs. absolutely nothing prepares you for this!! thanks for being here and being su extremely supportive you guys! Love to all of you, Kitty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeeTaa Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 Oh Kitty, I'm so, so sorry. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Blessings, TeeTaa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BJ Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 Kitty, I'm so sorry to hear this. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. BJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 Kitty,I'm so sorry to hear this.Will pray for strength for all of you in the upcoming days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 My heart goes out to you and your family, Kitty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 So sorry Kitty. It seems as if your Dad has been fighting a long and courageous battle. Prayers for you, your Dad and the family on their way. Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 Kitty, I am sorry. XOXOXOX Prayers always, MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 Kitty... I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending vibes of strength your way and hoping for peace for all your family. I know this must be so hard to absorb...and I'm sorry that it's happening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyCW Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 Kitty, I'm so very sorry. I pray you and your dad and your family will find peace and courage for the days ahead, and that you will share much love in the time you have. I'm just so sorry. BeckyCW Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJ Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 hi kitty, i'm sending prayers your way right now. God bless, mj Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remembering Dave Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 Darn it all. Im so sorry. Karen C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 Oh, Kitty, I am so sorry. Love, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cary Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 Kitty, Is you father experiencing mini-strokes or mini-seizures? My dad was having mini-seizures and declined in health over a couple of weeks. He eventually had a full seizure and became completely paralyzed (for 2 days) before they found his brain tumors back in 2003. He received WBR for his 21 brain mets(1cm-2cm each) and currently has no evidence of disease. You may want to get a second opinion. Cary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 Oh my, I am so sorry! Hugs and prayers going out to give you strength to face what you must. We are here for you! Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MSWKitty Posted August 21, 2004 Author Share Posted August 21, 2004 thank you all so much for your responses. they mean so much to me at this extremely difficult time. cary, i totally appreciate your input. unfortunately, my dad has an advance spread of cancer in his abdomen as well. the doctors seem to think that the radiosurgery could possibly do more damage than good at this time, and that it would only prolong his life for a fairly short amount of time before he would succomb anyway to this dreadful disease. family has been in and out today to see him and say their goodbyes. he is still opening his eyes, but has very few words. i'm just so sad... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall54 Posted August 21, 2004 Share Posted August 21, 2004 Dear Kitty, When it was decided that the chemo was no longer helping my Brother and that he was stopping treatment I have to say I felt relief as I knew as he did that it was his time. I was relieved because I knew he wasent going to go through a bunch of treatments that were not helping him and that he seemed accepting and ready to make that decision. When he told me that was what he was going to do I just shook my head yes. I was sad that I knew his end was near without anything to help him but I also knew God was going to take him home to a better place. I am not telling you how you should or should not feel as we are all different and handle things differently. I am just praying that he is at peace with the decision and that the family can come to accept it also because I think it makes a huge difference on the person who is ill to be supported in his/ her decision. God Bless You All, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted August 21, 2004 Share Posted August 21, 2004 Kitty, When they told my precious Earl that more treatment would only make him feel worse and in no way stop the progression of the disease, I felt like I had been punched in the stomach. I know in my brain, (but not yet in my heart) that it was the right thing to do. Continued treatment would only have been for me, not for him. My prayers are with you at this time, it is a very difficult time I know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SJAS Posted August 22, 2004 Share Posted August 22, 2004 Kitty, There are no words other than to say how sorry I am to hear of your father's condition. I pray for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babesdaughter Posted August 22, 2004 Share Posted August 22, 2004 I'm so sorry, Kitty. My thoughts and prayers are with you.....don't stop talking to him, even if he isn't responding out loud. We sat and told my Mom stories and sweet things and I know it was very comforting to her, it was very comforting to us as well. Wishing you peace..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MSWKitty Posted August 22, 2004 Author Share Posted August 22, 2004 thank you all soooo much! your input means the world to me right now. we're continuing to spend time with my dad. i've kissed him, hugged him, and told him how much i love him more than i think i ever have in my life. okay-- here come those darn tears again Lots of Love to you all, XOXOX Kitty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted August 22, 2004 Share Posted August 22, 2004 Kitty, So sorry, count on my prayers for all of you. J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy RN Posted August 22, 2004 Share Posted August 22, 2004 Kitty-I am so sorry it has come to this. Try and be supportive and positive around him, talk and sit and be still with him. Spend this time showing the love you all have for each other. May God bless you as you and yours go thru this. Love Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melinda Posted August 24, 2004 Share Posted August 24, 2004 Kitty, We are so sorry. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Melinda and Geoff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bean_si (Not Active) Posted August 24, 2004 Share Posted August 24, 2004 Kitty, I'm sorry to hear this. I will say prayers and send positive energy to you and your family. I will start as soon as I post this. Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiny Posted August 24, 2004 Share Posted August 24, 2004 Kitty- This is a terribly tough, rough time and my heart goes out to you and all the family. Prayers/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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