Yep, I've been there and continue to be there. How much do you let them do for themselves and how much do you do for them? I continually evaluate that. Lucie is using a walker right now because of pain in her leg. I put her walker in the car for her when we go out, but if I stop in front of a place to let her out and then proceed to find a parking place, I let her get the walker out for herself. It gives her independence and it is also good exercise. My immediate reaction is to do it all for her, but for her own self-worth and health, I think it is good to let her do what she can, even if it makes her a little more tired. This is something I think the couple has to work out between them. I can certainly identify to "hovering" and I try not to do too much of it. Don